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An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit can save your life!
An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is the mastermind process of domestic violence expert Susan Murphy Milano that combines video taping of the victims actual words attesting to the abuse coupled with creative witnessed and notarized legal documents that successfully satisfy legal hurdles often faced in these intimate partner violence and stalking cases. Susan has worked countless hours to move mountains in the way an abuse situation is handled.It combines past history of abuse, testimony,documentation, and evidence in a all in one video to support your statements of abuse as well as satisfy the courts.
The EAA was born out of the Stacey Peterson case. It was created to make sure if you disappear your fears and words do not. Stacey’s case reminds us we need the words of the victim otherwise even if everyone knows it is the abuser they get away with it. Proof is needed. Murphy-Milano says, “Had either Kathleen Savio or Stacy Peterson prepared an EAA, there would be no question of a prompt arrest. The EAA also gives law enforcement and investigators information about the alleged perpetrator allowing the victim to speak from the grave on her own behalf, should that be necessary. Think of the millions saved in taxpayer dollars!”
Susan has worked with prosecutors and victims all over the world. Since her creation not one of the people she has worked with has been killed. That in itself is a miracle since the U.S. Surgeon general finds domestic violence as the leading cause of health problems in our country. One in every three women will be victimized.
The EAA is easy to use, very detailed and walks the victim through the steps needed to cross any line drawn in prosecutions case. It contains the evidence and statements necessary to prosecute should the victim be harmed.
Until now the response when you are abused has been:
- victims are told to report (but action is only taken if you can show evidence of the abuse).
- Victims are told to go to a shelter.
- Victims are told to get a restraining order (but usually only granted if there is evidence of the abuse)
- Victims are told to move away (but leaving behind careers, family, and assets).
- Victims are told to stay with someone else.
- Victims are told stalking is hard to prove and stalking laws are often weak and poorly defined.
Now the solution is at your hands easily downloaded and process detailed. The EAA is now available on Apple products for download. It is simple, and I tried it myself. With the ease of an App, a victim can download the app and be guided through the process of creating the E.A.A. on a Smart Phone. Any Smart Phone with a camera will be able to video tape the recorded testimony of her abuse experiences. The person will simply fill out the E.A.A. documentation pages, and the pages will be notarized and instructions for where thecompleted documents are sent will direct the victim through the completion process. Utilizing cloud technology, the E.A.A. is stored safely in a forensically secured database.
It was released on July 4th, 2012. How fitting the day for freedom is the day the app becomes available. After 20 years of working on Intimate partner violence she sees her dream come true.All information on the EAA can be found on Susan’s website at: www.documenttheabuse.com. Please check out her latest book now available by download, Time’s Up: A Guide on How to Safely Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationships. Susan Murphy Milano is a true hero to millions and her newest creation can and will save lives. If you are in dangerous situation call local authorities and seek help. Always document everything. It can change the outcome.
This is an example of an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit for individuals who perceive they are at risk. By creating a file like this and giving it to specific people, any later events could be answered. A video like this could solve a crime later on. For more information visit www.documenttheabuse.com or Susan Murphy Milano’s Journal.
Take care and STAY SAFE!
Susan Murphy-Milano, Nationally Known Advocate and Author Has Been Called Home…
Susan Murphy-Milano
On Sunday, October 28, 2012 when many across the country were praying for Susan Murphy-Milano to find peace and to let God bring her home, she passed through the doorway of the mansion in heaven that was prepared for her.
Is she gone from us? No way.
Susan’s work lives on in each and every victim of violence that she figured out how to save, it goes on through each case she offered her expertise that got the attention it needed to make progress, she lives on through each friend who touched her life and to whom she gave so freely. Although her shoes can never be filled, her work will continue.
All of us have a favorite memory, picture and story about Susan. Please feel free to leave your words at Conquering Cancer in the comment section.
Memorial announcements will be made for a time in the future.
……Delilah Jones
Susan Murphy-Milano
was a nonfiction author, violence expert and host of the weekly radio crime show “Time’s Up” and author of a book by the same title. Murphy-Milano, who grew up in Chicago, lived in Surfside Beach, South Carolina.
Murder-suicide
In January 1989, Murphy-Milano’s father, 30-year veteran Detective Phillip Murphy, a decorated Chicago Police violent crimes investigator, murdered her mother, Roberta, using his service weapon, a .44 magnum, and then took his own life by shooting himself in the head. Afterward, Murphy-Milano, who discovered her parents’ bodies, vowed to change the way intimate partner crimes and homicides were handled and investigated. She spent her career advocating for women and child victims of domestic violence.
Career
Murphy-Milano was a nationally known women’s advocate who lobbied for the passage of 1993’s Illinois Stalking Law and the Lautenberg Amendment of 1996, a domestic violence offender gun ban.
Murphy-Milano authored Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence & Staying Safe, published by Doubleday, and Moving Out, Moving On, which focuses on when a relationship goes wrong. Times Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships, was released by the publishing on demand publisher, Dog Ear Press in 2010. Author and former prosecutor Robin Sax, in a review for Psychology Today, wrote about the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA) included in the book. “Murphy Milano reaches out and offers her hand — with a key (almost literally). Thank you to Murphy-Milano for giving us … a succinct, well-written guidebook that is a must-have for anyone who is a victim or who works with victims of domestic abuse. ”
Murphay-Milano’s most recently published book, Holding My Hand Through Hell by Ice Cube Press details her life of abuse, murder, and domestic violence. “Life-affirming and thought provoking just like Susan. –Diane Fanning, New York Times Best-Selling Author.
Murphy-Milano often spoke to law enforcement, at schools and before groups advocating victims’ rights. Also, she worked with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education.
Susan Murphy Milano was a specialist and expert in intimate partner violence and worked nationally with corporations, faith based organizations, domestic violence programs, law enforcement, and prosecutors providing technical and consulting services in high risk domestic violence and stalking related cases. Her principal objective was to intervene before a victim was seriously injured or killed. Utilizing a procedure which she devised, The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, Murphy Milano’s clients are all still alive a statistic that is remarkable considering the distinct increase in intimate partner homicides. Document the Abuse.Com offers pertinent information for victims leaving abusive relationships.
In addition, she and her work have been prominently featured in newspapers, magazines, radio, and television including: The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Radio, ABC S 20/20, Justice Files, E-True Hollywood, CNN, Sunday Today Show Profile, Women s Day, Family Circle, US News and World Report to name a few. She has frequently participated in guest media commentary panels on major and recently appeared on the A&E Biography of Drew Peterson. She is a well known radio host, regularly hosting The Susan Murphy Milano Show, Time s Up! on the Zeus Media Network, also she appeared on Crime Wire on BlogTalk Radio, and was a regular weekly co-host on the nationally syndicated The Roth Show.
Her books, Defending Our Lives; Moving Out, Moving On; Times Up!, Holding My Hand Through Hell and corresponding strategies will continue to be taught world-wide and used by law enforcement, social workers, attorneys, health care workers, human resource departments and domestic violence agencies.
Various contributors including Wikipedia
Blessings my Sister and Friend, you will truly be missed.
I. LOVE. YOU.
An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit can save your life!
An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is the mastermind process of domestic violence expert Susan Murphy Milano that combines video taping of the victims actual words attesting to the abuse coupled with creative witnessed and notarized legal documents that successfully satisfy legal hurdles often faced in these intimate partner violence and stalking cases. Susan has worked countless hours to move mountains in the way an abuse situation is handled.It combines past history of abuse, testimony,documentation, and evidence in a all in one video to support your statements of abuse as well as satisfy the courts.
The EAA was born out of the Stacey Peterson case. It was created to make sure if you disappear your fears and words do not. Stacey’s case reminds us we need the words of the victim otherwise even if everyone knows it is the abuser they get away with it. Proof is needed. Murphy-Milano says, “Had either Kathleen Savio or Stacy Peterson prepared an EAA, there would be no question of a prompt arrest. The EAA also gives law enforcement and investigators information about the alleged perpetrator allowing the victim to speak from the grave on her own behalf, should that be necessary. Think of the millions saved in taxpayer dollars!”
Susan has worked with prosecutors and victims all over the world. Since her creation not one of the people she has worked with has been killed. That in itself is a miracle since the U.S. Surgeon general finds domestic violence as the leading cause of health problems in our country. One in every three women will be victimized.
The EAA is easy to use, very detailed and walks the victim through the steps needed to cross any line drawn in prosecutions case. It contains the evidence and statements necessary to prosecute should the victim be harmed.
Until now the response when you are abused has been:
- victims are told to report (but action is only taken if you can show evidence of the abuse).
- Victims are told to go to a shelter.
- Victims are told to get a restraining order (but usually only granted if there is evidence of the abuse)
- Victims are told to move away (but leaving behind careers, family, and assets).
- Victims are told to stay with someone else.
- Victims are told stalking is hard to prove and stalking laws are often weak and poorly defined.
Now the solution is at your hands easily downloaded and process detailed. The EAA is now available on Apple products for download. It is simple, and I tried it myself. With the ease of an App, a victim can download the app and be guided through the process of creating the E.A.A. on a Smart Phone. Any Smart Phone with a camera will be able to video tape the recorded testimony of her abuse experiences. The person will simply fill out the E.A.A. documentation pages, and the pages will be notarized and instructions for where the completed documents are sent will direct the victim through the completion process. Utilizing cloud technology, the E.A.A. is stored safely in a forensically secured database.
It was released on July 4th, 2012. How fitting the day for freedom is the day the app becomes available. After 20 years of working on Intimate partner violence she sees her dream come true.All information on the EAA can be found on Susan’s website at: www.documenttheabuse.com. Please check out her latest book now available by download, Time’s Up: A Guide on How to Safely Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationships. Susan Murphy Milano is a true hero to millions and her newest creation can and will save lives. If you are in dangerous situation call local authorities and seek help. Always document everything. It can change the outcome.
This is an example of an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit for individuals who perceive they are at risk. By creating a file like this and giving it to specific people, any later events could be answered. A video like this could solve a crime later on. For more information visit Susan’s website.
Take care and STAY SAFE!
Contributed by Examiner.com in part
Showcasing an Alleged Murderer?…Drew Peterson
Showcasing an Alleged Murderer?…Drew Peterson
Susan Murphy-Milano is on the heels of The Chicago Sun-Times and rightfully so. Since when are prisoners allowed to be “showcased” (definition – a setting in which anything may be displayed to BEST ADVANTAGE/BEST EFFECT)?
Last week the paper, Chicago Sun-Times ran a two-part series of a letter from former Sergeant and alleged murder, Drew Peterson. The first headline ran on August 15th, “The Drew Peterson Letter My Life in Jail” and on August 16th, “Drew Peterson-Not Easy Being A National Pastime“. And, Chicago Sun-Times columnist Michael Sneed was able to run them on the front page!
Drew Peterson was arrested in May of 2009 for the alleged murder of his third wife, Kathleen Savio in 2004 as well as the fact that his fourth wife, Stacy Peterson is still missing.
In her blog, Murphy-Milano Journal, Murphy-Milano is hitting home runs as she digs her cleats in as she stands up for justice to be served for the women that Peterson is accused of harming.
It is purely outrageous to give any type of attention to an accused murderer. What was the purpose? A selling tactic? It is appalling that any attention would be granted or even considered; however, what about equal playing time? What about giving Kathleen and Stacy equal acknowledging – they were the victims and should be thought of first and foremost. Even if others won’t, Susan will do it herself.
And, furthermore what message is being sent to abusers and assailants by endorsing and publishing Peterson’s garbage? From my account and other Advocates, the message is loud and clear – “the lives of victims of intimate partner homicide do not matter in Illinois and across the country”.
Susan Murphy-Milano is a noted expert in the field of domestic and family violence, Intimate Partner Homicide, and officer involved domestic violence, not only through a heart to help victims, but from her own personal life experiences. She has written three books on how to safely leave a violent relationship, which include methods she has used over the last 20 years of her service to victims, saving countless lives.
Her latest book, “Time’s Up,” includes a unique method, the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, outlined in Chapter 4, which is a series of signed and notarized documents, along with video testimony, that will stand up against the Crawford v Washington ruling in courts across America. Victims who have been lethally harmed will have a voice against their abuser, as in the cases of both Kathleen Savio and Stacy Peterson.
Be sure to check in on Murphy-Milano’s Journal for the series on Peterson’s letters from jail.
Also, please realize the importance of leaving your comments/feelings on Susan’s blog. When we outwardly join forces there is a loud impact indicating communities are coming together.
Thank you!
STAY SAFE!
Could Susan Murphy-Milano’s “Time’s Up” have helped Susan Cox Powell before it was too late?
Could Susan Murphy-Milano’s “Time’s Up” have helped Susan Cox Powell before it was too late?
Fort Lauderdale News Seattle Headlines Examiner
April 12, 10:50 PM Seattle Headlines Examiner Isabelle Zehnder
Time’s Up! by Susan Murphy-Milano
Courtesy of Susan Murphy-Milano
Via Lisa Michels
April 12, 2010 – According to Susan Murphy-Milano, Susan Cox Powell is a great example of a woman who could have benefited from her newly released book “Time’s Up!”.
Susan Murphy-Milano believes that with the proliferation of deaths due to domestic violence, something has to be done, something different, and something effective.
Murphy-Milano is a 20-year veteran of family violence, having discovered the bodies of her mother and father after her father shot and killed them both. The memory of that day is forever etched in her memory. She is driven to help other women who are victims of domestic violence in their own homes.
Her newest book, “Time’s Up”, A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,” was released April 12, 2010. (Click here to order.)
“Time’s Up!” guides the victim towards safety by showing them the unseen pitfalls of leaving a violent relationship and how to navigate around them.
“Time’s Up!” also has explicit details and instructions how to fill out an “Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit”, one of the unique things that Murphy-Milano has created and used through the years in high danger cases which has saved the lives of many.
You can actually live free from a life of abuse and violence using creative approaches developed by Susan Murphy Milano in her new book, “Time’s Up!”
You can’t Google the strategies and escape plans utilized by Susan who has devised a way that works and has been tested by time for over 20 years. Just like DNA, your road map will be uniquely your own because each safety plan is individual.
More than just a “to do” list, this book is a “must do” list if you are caught in a life threatening situation.
- How to properly hire a lawyer,
- How to find an apartment,
- How to keep your personal records safe,
- How to deal with stalking
- How to set up visitation and child support
- How to stay 10 steps ahead of the abuser
Susan Murphy Milano has been in the streets and shelters helping women escape from bad relationships and has developed creative ways out of frightening situations. There are domestic violence organizations and advocates who call on Susan daily to get her expert opinion on cases of battered women and how to get them on a track of freedom and safety. :
“I cannot emphasize how important this book is to all the women in your life. Even if you are in a good, stable relationship, buy this book, keep it handy. One day, when you least expect it, someone close to you will need it. It can save a life—many lives.” `Diane Fanning, author of The Calylee Anthony Case “Mommy’s Liitle Giirl”, “Written in Blood”, ” Gone Forever” St. Martin’s Press ( her website is http://www.dianefanning.com)
Previous books, “Defending Our Lives” and “Moving Out, Moving On” are benchmarks dealing with issues domestic violence safety plans and are used throughout the country as examples of what to do should you be caught in a violent relationship. “Time’s Up!” uses the foundations and helps you to build your own, unique safety plan allowing you to escape safely and rebuild your life.
Following is an excerpt from another book written by Susan Murphy-Milano, “Moving out, moving on”:
If you are in a relationship, you must be treated with respect, which means your boyfriend or partner:
is willing to compromise
lets you feel comfortable being yourself
is able to admit to being wrong
tries to resolve conflict by talking honestly
respects your feelings, your opinions and your friends
accepts you saying no to things you don’t want to do (like sex)
accepts you changing your mind
respects your wishes if you want to end the relationship
When someone loves you; you feel valued, respected and free to be yourself. You shouldn’t be made to feel intimidated or controlled.
Think about your relationship – do you feel respected?
Susan Murphy-Milano is a specialist in family violence and works nationally with domestic violence programs, law enforcement and prosecutors providing technical and consulting services in “high risk” domestic violence and stalking related cases.
Her principal objective is to intervene before a victim is seriously injured or killed.
Murphy-Milano believes if missing women such as Susan Cox Powell, Renee Pernice, Stacy Peterson, and others, had created this abuse document the person responsible for their disappearance would be arrested (click here for abuse document and video).
Murphy-Milano is an advocate for women in abusive relationships across the country. She advocates for stronger laws to protect women. She has helped women feel protected by providing education and a safe haven. Click here for an overview of Susan’s work.
About Susan Murphy-Milano
Susan Murphy-Milano is often praised as one of the most dynamic and engaging speakers of our day in the domestic violence prevention field.
As an expert in the area of intimate partner violence and the prevention of homicide, Susan has created specific tools and procedures which the abused need to safely leave a violent relationship.
Her books, “Defending Our Lives”, “Moving Out, Moving On” and “Time’s Up!” are considered the “bibles” of how to make the move away from abuse and deal with the many confusing situations surrounding violence prevention, stalking, break-up or divorce.
Susan witnessed her father, a decorated Chicago Violent crimes Detective, brutally and violently attack her mother repeatedly. The words “if you leave I will kill you,” turned into reality the night Susan walked into her childhood home and found her mother murdered and her father in the next room dead from a self-inflicted gun-shot wound to the head.
Susan vowed then, and has, since the murder-suicide of her parents, carved out a road map making changes in the way the world looks at violence in and outside the home.
Her books and strategies are taught world-wide and used by law enforcement, domestic abuse advocates, social workers, attorneys, health care workers, human resource departments and domestic violence agencies. The comprehensive strategies and escape plans utilized by Susan have been successful and tested by time for over 20 years.
Susan uses humor, passion, and all her years of experience to motivate her audience to become more effective first responders, advocates and professionals in their work to stop family violence.
Susan’s quest for justice was instrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lauternberg Act.
She has been prominently featured in newspapers, magazines, radio and television including: The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Radio, ABC’S 20/20, Justice Files, E-True Hollywood, CNN, Sunday Today Show Profile, Women’s Day, Family Circle, US News and World Report to name only a few.
She has frequently participated in guest media commentary panels on major news programs. She is a contributor to the online blogs Women and Crime Ink and the crime survivors blog Time’s Up.
Susan Murphy-Milano is the author of “Defending Our Lives” published by Doubleday books and “Moving Out Moving On” when a relationship goes wrong.
Her newest book, “Time’s Up!” A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships, is available on-line and in bookstores.
Susan is host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show and will be participating in the new television show, “Crime Wire” which will examine cases in which the investigations have left questions unanswered and possible criminal activity unexposed. Her Website is www.susanmurphymilano.com.
Resources:
Order “Time’s Up!”
Order “Moving out, moving on”
Order “Defending our Lives”
Susan Murphy-Milano’s website
Overview of Susan’s work
Abuse document and video
Time’s Up – A Book of Distinction
TigressPen’s Surmisals
Until Susan Murphy Milano educated us all on the meaning of the term ‘Domestic Abuse,’ and it’s long term effect on women and children of the abused, anytime we heard of LE going to a home where a husband and wife were ‘arguing,’ one slapped the other stuff is the way we viewed it. Marital discord, family spat, heated argument – those were the terms we read and believed was truth in these situations. The incidents were nothing more than a shrug and head shake of ‘shame on them disgust,’ and quickly forgotten.
I read another blog piece on ‘Psychology Today,’ praising this book and the author, Robin Sax, mentioned OJ Simpson. That mention got me to thinking; I can’t remember spouse abuse of any kind being seriously discussed on talk shows before the OJ trial. Before the murder trial, when OJ Simpson beat on Nicole and she called the cops, they basically overlooked and did not really see abuse for what it really was, domestic violence; they saw him as the great football hero, Nicole as the argumentative wife with an attitude. Unfortunately, we saw domestic violence that way throughout the US long before they made Nicole’s abuse public; wives had an attitude and they were just ungrateful. The first question spouses were and, sadly, often still asked is ‘What did You do to deserve it?’ That question makes my blood pressure rise! In truth, wives do nothing to deserve it! Nobody deserves to be hit or beaten in any way. Now we see ‘marital discord’ that becomes physical for what it is – Abuse! And it’s abuse that could, and too often does, escalate to murder.
Women (and men who are abused) need ‘Time’s Up’. They not only need to read it, to think about their own situations, but need to be proactive and protect themselves and their children from an abuser. I think of Micah Pate, killed in April of 2009, and wonder how often or if she was abused by her husband, Thomas, prior to her murder. He claims accidental shooting but, (and that is a huge but) his story doesn’t add up in my mind. I think Micah could have greatly benefitted from ‘Time’s Up’ and it’s roadmap of advice.
‘Time’s Up’ is the best gift a person can give a friend whom they believe is in an abusive relationship. Teens need this book; teens abusing their girlfriend or boyfriend are more prevalent than many realize. Verbal, emotional and physical abuse is escalating in teens.
To quote Robin Sax – To say that Susan Murphy Milano has hit the nail on the head (again) is a total understatement! How true! That is more than an understatement; Susan has hit the nail dead-center, choreographed a life-saving-roadmap for the abused. No word can adequately express or exemplify how important ‘Time’s Up’ is for victims of abuse.
‘Time’s Up’ is more than a manual, a handbook, it’s more than just another book, it’s a ‘Lifesaver,’ a surefire roadmap chocked full of ways to document evidence and protect yourself; in protecting yourself, you are also protecting your children from a life with an abuser. Hopefully, we will eventually see a copy of ‘Time’s Up’ in every library, every police department, every school, every church and every shelter where those who need help can utilize it and protect themselves from an abuser.