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An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit can save your life!

November 21, 2012 2 comments

An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is the mastermind process of domestic violence expert Susan Murphy Milano that combines video taping of the victims actual words attesting to the abuse coupled with creative witnessed and notarized legal documents that successfully satisfy legal hurdles often faced in these intimate partner violence and stalking cases.  Susan has worked countless hours to move mountains in the way an abuse situation is handled.It combines past history of abuse, testimony,documentation, and evidence in a all in one video to support your statements of abuse as well as satisfy the courts.

The EAA was born out of the Stacey Peterson case.  It was created to make sure if you disappear your fears and words do not.  Stacey’s case reminds us we need the words of the victim otherwise even if everyone knows it is the abuser they get away with it.  Proof is needed.  Murphy-Milano says, “Had either Kathleen Savio or Stacy Peterson prepared an EAA, there would be no question of a prompt arrest. The EAA also gives law enforcement and investigators information about the alleged perpetrator allowing the victim to speak from the grave on her own behalf, should that be necessary.  Think of the millions saved in taxpayer dollars!”

Susan has worked with prosecutors and victims all over the world.  Since her creation not one of the people she has worked with has been killed.  That in itself is a miracle since the U.S. Surgeon general finds domestic violence as the leading cause of health problems in our country.  One in every three women will be victimized.

The EAA is easy to use, very detailed and walks the victim through the steps needed to cross any line drawn in prosecutions case.  It contains the evidence and statements necessary to prosecute should the victim be harmed.

Until now the response when you are abused has been:

  • victims are told to report (but action is only taken if you can show evidence of the abuse).
  • Victims are told to go to a shelter.
  • Victims are told to get a restraining order (but usually only granted if there is evidence of the abuse)
  • Victims are told to move away (but leaving behind careers, family, and assets).
  • Victims are told to stay with someone else.
  • Victims are told stalking is hard to prove and stalking laws are often weak and poorly defined.

Now the solution is at your hands easily downloaded and process detailed.  The EAA is now available on Apple products for download.  It is simple, and I tried it myself.  With the ease of an App, a victim can download the app and be guided through the process of creating the E.A.A. on a Smart Phone.  Any Smart Phone with a camera will be able to video tape the recorded testimony of her abuse experiences.  The person will simply fill out the E.A.A. documentation pages, and the pages will be notarized and instructions for where thecompleted documents are sent will direct the victim through the completion process.  Utilizing cloud technology, the E.A.A. is stored safely in a forensically secured database.

It was released on July 4th, 2012.  How fitting the day for freedom is the day the app becomes available.  After 20 years of working on Intimate partner violence she sees her dream come true.All information on the EAA can be found on Susan’s website at: www.documenttheabuse.com.  Please check out her latest book now available by download, Time’s Up: A Guide on How to Safely Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationships.  Susan Murphy Milano is a true hero to millions and her newest creation can and will save lives.  If you are in dangerous situation call local authorities and seek help. Always document everything. It can change the outcome.

This is an example of an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit for individuals who perceive they are at risk.  By creating a file like this and giving it to specific people, any later events could be answered.  A video like this could solve a crime later on.  For more information visit www.documenttheabuse.com or Susan Murphy Milano’s Journal.

Take care and STAY SAFE!

An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit can save your life!

July 15, 2012 Comments off

An Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is the mastermind process of domestic violence expert Susan Murphy Milano that combines video taping of the victims actual words attesting to the abuse coupled with creative witnessed and notarized legal documents that successfully satisfy legal hurdles often faced in these intimate partner violence and stalking cases.  Susan has worked countless hours to move mountains in the way an abuse situation is handled.It combines past history of abuse, testimony,documentation, and evidence in a all in one video to support your statements of abuse as well as satisfy the courts.

The EAA was born out of the Stacey Peterson case.  It was created to make sure if you disappear your fears and words do not.  Stacey’s case reminds us we need the words of the victim otherwise even if everyone knows it is the abuser they get away with it.  Proof is needed.  Murphy-Milano says, “Had either Kathleen Savio or Stacy Peterson prepared an EAA, there would be no question of a prompt arrest. The EAA also gives law enforcement and investigators information about the alleged perpetrator allowing the victim to speak from the grave on her own behalf, should that be necessary.  Think of the millions saved in taxpayer dollars!”

Susan has worked with prosecutors and victims all over the world.  Since her creation not one of the people she has worked with has been killed.  That in itself is a miracle since the U.S. Surgeon general finds domestic violence as the leading cause of health problems in our country.  One in every three women will be victimized.

The EAA is easy to use, very detailed and walks the victim through the steps needed to cross any line drawn in prosecutions case.  It contains the evidence and statements necessary to prosecute should the victim be harmed.

Until now the response when you are abused has been:

  • victims are told to report (but action is only taken if you can show evidence of the abuse).
  • Victims are told to go to a shelter.
  • Victims are told to get a restraining order (but usually only granted if there is evidence of the abuse)
  • Victims are told to move away (but leaving behind careers, family, and assets).
  • Victims are told to stay with someone else.
  • Victims are told stalking is hard to prove and stalking laws are often weak and poorly defined.

Now the solution is at your hands easily downloaded and process detailed.  The EAA is now available on Apple products for download.  It is simple, and I tried it myself.  With the ease of an App, a victim can download the app and be guided through the process of creating the E.A.A. on a Smart Phone.  Any Smart Phone with a camera will be able to video tape the recorded testimony of her abuse experiences.  The person will simply fill out the E.A.A. documentation pages, and the pages will be notarized and instructions for where the completed documents are sent will direct the victim through the completion process.  Utilizing cloud technology, the E.A.A. is stored safely in a forensically secured database.

It was released on July 4th, 2012.  How fitting the day for freedom is the day the app becomes available.  After 20 years of working on Intimate partner violence she sees her dream come true.All information on the EAA can be found on Susan’s website at: www.documenttheabuse.com.  Please check out her latest book now available by download, Time’s Up: A Guide on How to Safely Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationships.  Susan Murphy Milano is a true hero to millions and her newest creation can and will save lives.  If you are in dangerous situation call local authorities and seek help. Always document everything. It can change the outcome.

This is an example of an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit for individuals who perceive they are at risk.  By creating a file like this and giving it to specific people, any later events could be answered.  A video like this could solve a crime later on.  For more information visit Susan’s website.

Take care and STAY SAFE!

Contributed by Examiner.com in part

When Bad Boys Kill…by Randy Susan Meyers

May 21, 2010 Comments off

When Bad Boys Kill…

Randy Susan Meyers

Randy Susan Meyers

Author, The Murderer’s Daughters

Posted: May 19, 2010 05:46 PM
The Huffington Post

“Many are asking, how could this have happened?”

The article (People, May 24, 2010) about the homicide of Yeardley Love could just as easily have asked, “Why are people surprised that George Huguely is accused of murdering Yeardley Love?”

According to People, it was known that Love and Huguely had a troubled relationship, and that he had anger issues.

According to CBS news Huguely “had a run-in with a Lexington, VA police officer, a female officer who felt so threatened she had to use a Taser to take him into custody. He was charged with resisting arrest and public intoxication.”

According to the New York Daily News, University of Virginia lacrosse players adhered to the code of silence that permeates locker rooms and dorm rooms Thursday, refusing to comment on former teammate George Huguely, who was been charged in the slaying of his former girlfriend Yeardley Love, or on reports that he had a history of aggressive behavior.

Yeardley Love died from a young man’s out of control anger. Could it have been prevented if there hadn’t been a conspiracy of silence from his teammates? If the University of Virginia had shown a true knowledge of in loco parentis?

According to Clint Van Zandt of MSNBC news:

1) “The U.S. Dept of Education, the FBI and the U.S. Secret Service recently released an extensive research report that indicated the incidents of college campus violence had drastically increased in the past 20 years.

2) One-in-five women who attend college will be the victim of a sexual assault during her four years on campus.

3) The Parents Television Council recently found that portrayals of violence against women on television are on the rise, reporting that in the past five years violence directed against women rose 120 percent and the rate of increased violence concerning teenagers rose 400 percent. The Council further reported such increases represent graphic examples of beatings, rapes, torture and murder, plus at times, even the trivialization of such crimes.

Our sons, our husbands, our brother and our fathers play with these games that dehumanize women and yet we profess shock when our daughters, wives, sisters and mothers are raped and killed.

After working with men who batter for almost 10 years, I can vouch for this: these men are not very different from the young man who might be dating your daughter or who you might meet at a singles event. They wear no sign alerting you to danger. They know how to be charming, funny, generous and loving.

In the beginning.

Most of the batterers were classic bad boys; they could charm like no one else. I wish I could share with every woman the experience of sitting in a circle with 15 court-remanded bad boys. I can’t put you in that room, but I can tell you what a bad boy will do before he uses his fists–and this is the time to get out.

1) When you and your bad boy have that insane fight, and you don’t know how it began, or why he stormed out the door–when you’re ready to follow him so you can beg his forgiveness but you don’t have any idea what to apologize for, here’s what’s really going on:

He wanted to get out of the house. That’s why he caused the fight. The men I worked with admitted it proudly.

2) What did most men admit was the most common goal of these awful battles? To get you to “shut the f*** up.” When the battles don’t work, that’s when the fists come out.

3) Does he tell you “you’re the only one I’ve ever been able to talk to?” Yeah. Right. First of all, he’s probably said the same thing to 100 other women. Because he knows it’s like catnip. The men I worked with were very clear that they used this line only to manipulate.

4) When he says, “I can’t live without you,” here’s a news flash. Yes he can. And he will. Quite well. The question is, can you live with him? Do you want to?

5) You want to believe it will get better. If you explain it once more, write one more email, cry one more time, then finally he will understand! And once he understands, those moments of incredible tenderness and bliss will last forever!

I promise you, things will not get better. There’s nothing you can do unless he wants to change, and the cycle will continue as long as you believe it’s you who needs to change.

So here’s my advice, as a mother, a sister, a friend and most of all, as a woman who heard the truth from those bad boys:

Get out before the fists fly.
And choose kind over thrilling. It wears better.

Nightmare At Richmond High School, CA

November 2, 2009 Comments off

RICHMOND HIGH SCHOOL SIGN

A gymnasium filled with decorations, balloons, neon and strobe lighting is the setting of most high school homecoming dances.  A DJ spinning today’s tunes for high school students; couples and friends dancing.  Perhaps some students shy (both female and male) sitting around at the tables chatting and enjoying the time that they will be to able replay in their minds and hearts forever.  Many wondering if so-and-so “likes” me……wondering if he may ask me to dance or if I ask her to dance will she accept.  Snacks filling the tables and an atmosphere filled with happiness, excitement and promises of a bright future – every young person’s dream when in high school.  An annual event that takes place after a homecoming football game whereas a king and queen are elected from the Senior class of the high school by the student body.  However, October 24th, 2009 will forever be changed for one young lady, her family, her friends and community.

The life of a 15 year-old young lady has been changed for the rest of her life as she was brutally beaten and gang raped for at least two-two and a half hours a week ago (October 24th) at Richmond High School, Richmond, California.  Many onlookers cheered and encouraged the assault on WITHOUT a second thought of coming to her rescue.  Can you imagine yourself or your child to be part of such a horrific crime without doing anything to try to stop the assault?  To try to assist this young lady?  Very few kids do not have cell phones today – in which it would have only taken a moment to dial 911……but no one did who was there.  Does anyone find this remotely disturbing?

The victim was lured by a male friend to a remote area of the high school campus while waiting for her father to pick her up from her homecoming dance.  According to  reports, after drinking brandy, the victim became incapacitated and vulnerable.   This young lady struggled, trying to fight off a group of youths who spent two hours or more raping, beating and robbing her.  Pictures and videos of the assault were taken by cell phones.  While this horrific assault was taking place, her father was looking for her as she was missing at the specified time and place as they had agreed to meet at the school.

No one called police until word of the ongoing rape spread to a house party, where an appalled female fellow student felt obligated to phone in the rumor as she overheard other kids talking about the assault.

When officers arrived on the scene, the assault was still going on.  Several suspects fled as officers arrived at the scene.  The victim was found badly injured and semi-conscious near a picnic table.   The victim was airlifted to a nearby hospital, admitted in critical condition.  Thank God, she stabilized overnight.

At the time of this posting five males have been arraigned in the shocking gang rape case that has horrified the entire nation.  The defendants, Manuel Ortega, 19, Cody Ray Smith, 15, Ari Abdallah Morales, 16 of and Marcelles James Peter, 17 filed into the Contra County Superior Court wearing bulletproof vests. Smith was the only to plead not guilty, while the rest declined to enter a plea. Smith, Morales and Peter are all being charged with rape and sexual penetration with a foreign object. Prosecutors say there are special circumstances that could make them eligible for life in prison. They will be charged as adults due to the severity of the crime.  A fifth suspect has been arrested, 21-year-old Salvador Rodriguez, but he has not been charged as of yet. He remains jailed.

My heart goes to this young lady and her family. As for the males that were involved in these crimes I only shake my head and pray that justice will be served.  I commend the young lady who called 911 as she did not give it a second thought to report the assault.  She is truly a humanitarian.

  • Why would a “friend” of anyone put you in harms way?  (Friends like this, who needs enemies?)
  • Didn’t the victim find it odd that this “friend” was leading her to a remote area and away from the dance and what could he have possibly said to her?  (Her intuition had to have kicked in at some point in time.  However, with proper training or education not always do people heed to this strongest feeling one will ever have.)
  • What is wrong with these young people (males) that would possess them to assault this young lady or any female?
  • How could others even look themselves in the mirror as they cheered and watched the assault?  (It has been reported that the onlookers cannot be charged – having a hard time digesting this.)

The victim’s family is asking for no more violence and to find ways in which the community can come together to work through what has happened to their daughter.

“Please do not respond to this tragic event by promoting hatred or by causing more pain. We have had enough violence already in this place. If you need to express your outrage, please channel your anger into positive action,” the girl’s family wrote.

“Work toward changing the atmosphere in our schools and in this community so that this kind of thing never happens again.”

Parents are volunteering to assist at the high school in numerous ways.

The family has a deep spiritual bond – “Through God’s unconditional love, He will give you continual strength.”

A friend of the victim has blasted the school officials whereas whites are a minority.  There is a strong need for more security inside and outside of the high school.

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