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Susan Murphy-Milano, Nationally Known Advocate and Author Has Been Called Home…
Susan Murphy-Milano
On Sunday, October 28, 2012 when many across the country were praying for Susan Murphy-Milano to find peace and to let God bring her home, she passed through the doorway of the mansion in heaven that was prepared for her.
Is she gone from us? No way.
Susan’s work lives on in each and every victim of violence that she figured out how to save, it goes on through each case she offered her expertise that got the attention it needed to make progress, she lives on through each friend who touched her life and to whom she gave so freely. Although her shoes can never be filled, her work will continue.
All of us have a favorite memory, picture and story about Susan. Please feel free to leave your words at Conquering Cancer in the comment section.
Memorial announcements will be made for a time in the future.
……Delilah Jones
Susan Murphy-Milano
was a nonfiction author, violence expert and host of the weekly radio crime show “Time’s Up” and author of a book by the same title. Murphy-Milano, who grew up in Chicago, lived in Surfside Beach, South Carolina.
Murder-suicide
In January 1989, Murphy-Milano’s father, 30-year veteran Detective Phillip Murphy, a decorated Chicago Police violent crimes investigator, murdered her mother, Roberta, using his service weapon, a .44 magnum, and then took his own life by shooting himself in the head. Afterward, Murphy-Milano, who discovered her parents’ bodies, vowed to change the way intimate partner crimes and homicides were handled and investigated. She spent her career advocating for women and child victims of domestic violence.
Career
Murphy-Milano was a nationally known women’s advocate who lobbied for the passage of 1993’s Illinois Stalking Law and the Lautenberg Amendment of 1996, a domestic violence offender gun ban.
Murphy-Milano authored Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence & Staying Safe, published by Doubleday, and Moving Out, Moving On, which focuses on when a relationship goes wrong. Times Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships, was released by the publishing on demand publisher, Dog Ear Press in 2010. Author and former prosecutor Robin Sax, in a review for Psychology Today, wrote about the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA) included in the book. “Murphy Milano reaches out and offers her hand — with a key (almost literally). Thank you to Murphy-Milano for giving us … a succinct, well-written guidebook that is a must-have for anyone who is a victim or who works with victims of domestic abuse. ”
Murphay-Milano’s most recently published book, Holding My Hand Through Hell by Ice Cube Press details her life of abuse, murder, and domestic violence. “Life-affirming and thought provoking just like Susan. –Diane Fanning, New York Times Best-Selling Author.
Murphy-Milano often spoke to law enforcement, at schools and before groups advocating victims’ rights. Also, she worked with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education.
Susan Murphy Milano was a specialist and expert in intimate partner violence and worked nationally with corporations, faith based organizations, domestic violence programs, law enforcement, and prosecutors providing technical and consulting services in high risk domestic violence and stalking related cases. Her principal objective was to intervene before a victim was seriously injured or killed. Utilizing a procedure which she devised, The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, Murphy Milano’s clients are all still alive a statistic that is remarkable considering the distinct increase in intimate partner homicides. Document the Abuse.Com offers pertinent information for victims leaving abusive relationships.
In addition, she and her work have been prominently featured in newspapers, magazines, radio, and television including: The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Radio, ABC S 20/20, Justice Files, E-True Hollywood, CNN, Sunday Today Show Profile, Women s Day, Family Circle, US News and World Report to name a few. She has frequently participated in guest media commentary panels on major and recently appeared on the A&E Biography of Drew Peterson. She is a well known radio host, regularly hosting The Susan Murphy Milano Show, Time s Up! on the Zeus Media Network, also she appeared on Crime Wire on BlogTalk Radio, and was a regular weekly co-host on the nationally syndicated The Roth Show.
Her books, Defending Our Lives; Moving Out, Moving On; Times Up!, Holding My Hand Through Hell and corresponding strategies will continue to be taught world-wide and used by law enforcement, social workers, attorneys, health care workers, human resource departments and domestic violence agencies.
Various contributors including Wikipedia
Blessings my Sister and Friend, you will truly be missed.
I. LOVE. YOU.
Urge NFL Commission & Team Owners To Institute New Sexual Assault Awarness Training Program…
Urge NFL Commission & Team Owners to institute new Sexual Assault Awareness Training Program.
Time after time we hear about an NFL player being accused of sexual assault or domestic violence.
HEADLINES:
*Lawrence Taylor rape arrest: Ex-Giant accused of raping, beating teen girl in NY hotel
*Ben Roethlisberger Accused of Sexual Assault AGAIN (second allegation in 365 days)
*Former NFL Player Michael Irvin, accused of rape (Cowboys)
*4 NFL Players Accused with Drugging, then Raping Woman – Dedric Ward, Charlie Batch, Ron Rice and Tyree Tolton
*O.J. Simpson Questioned on Domestic Abuse – (The Washington Post, January 26, 1996)
Need we say more? Enough is Enough. Now can we talk?
These players need to know that issues of violence affect everyone. Our children look up to and aspire to be like these players. Therefore, they should be expected to conduct themselves responsibly, promoting good and lawful values to be emulated.
Our goal is not to humiliate or hold a public trial. Our goal is to work with the NFL and the teams in order to educate them on the severity of their actions. Roger Goodell recently issued a memo in regards to the leagues personal conduct policy. It reads:
“The Policy makes clear that NFL and club personnel must do more than simply avoid criminal behavior. We must conduct ourselves in a way that ‘is responsible, that promotes the values upon which the league is based, and is lawful.’ This standard reflects the recognition that the conduct and behavior of our players and other league and team employees is critically important. Whether it involves your team or another, these incidents affect us all — every investigation, arrest, or other allegation of improper conduct undermines the respect for our league by our fans, lessens the confidence of our business partners and threatens the continued success of our brand.
“As your club begins its offseason programs and approaches the Draft, I encourage you to be vigilant in reinforcing this message with your players and staff. It makes no difference whether an incident occurs during the season or in the off-season. At every opportunity, you should remind them of your standards and the public’s expectations, of the need to use good judgment, particularly when in a public place, and of the resources available to help us all in meeting these standards.”
Obviously the commission understands the severity of the issues and that the number of recent complaints are alarming to us all. This shows that additional measures need to be instituted. It is not enough to merely state “this is wrong.” They need to understand first hand how their actions affect victims and society. In order to accomplish this we believe that additional requirements need to be added to the league’s current personal conduct policy.
1. Yearly required Sexual Assault Awareness Training for every player and employee.
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2. The training should include victims & survivors of sexual assault telling their stories of abuse, the affect it has on their lives and the lives of the people around them. (Examples of organizations: RAINN’s Speakers Bureau, Elite Speakers Bureau.)
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3. The training should include Men from an organization similiar to “NOMAS” (National Organization for Men Against Sexism) or “Men Can Stop Rape.” An organization that mobilizes men to use their strength for creating cultures free from violence against women.
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4. The policy should include financial penalties (preferably not less than 10% of their gross income) to be paid to the local rape crisis center.
Until policies that include education and financial penalties are instituted we see no end in sight. That’s why your support for this petition is urgently needed. Tell the NFL Commission and the Team owners that you support educating and holding these players accountable by signing this petition today.
TO SIGN THE PETITION CLICK HERE
Thank you for Advocacy and Support.
Via Change.org
Project Safe Girls: Stop Domestic Violence & All Assaults Against Females On Facebook
Help empower females to understand safety awareness, mental and physical self-defense.
The Elite Speakers Bureau, Inc. Launches!
The Elite Speaker’s Bureau, Inc. was founded by Denise Brown, sister of Nicole Brown Simpson and advocate against domestic violence. Nicole was a victim of domestic violence and was brutally murdered in 1994. Denise has traveled the world speaking out about the issue of domestic violence for over 15 years, which also exposed her to the harsh reality that many forms of violence occur in our neighborhoods, communities and society. Denise realized that more needs to be done, and more people need to know that issues of violence affect everyone.
Her vision has now become a reality, as she has brought together an elite group of speakers to spread the word and educate others. By her side is her sister Dominique, who is involved in the process of reaching out to corporations, organizations, foundations, shelters, schools, medical associations/professionals, law enforcement agencies and individuals who can benefit from the knowledge and inspiration of our expert speakers.
The Elite Speakers Bureau Objective was formed to bring more awareness to domestic violence, child abuse, teen violence, elder abuse, stalking, net crimes, workplace violence, victims of crime, sexual assault, animal abuse and mental wellness. The speakers are professionals with knowledge on these issues. The team includes renowned authors, advocates, therapists, celebrities and more. The Elite Speaker’s Bureau, Inc. is where clients can trust the knowledge and professionalism of their team of callers and their experienced speakers.
Callers will work with you from start to finish on your event, seminar, conference, etc. to make it the most successful it can be. The speakers will promote your function through various media outlets, including newspaper, magazines, radio and television, to name a few.
In addition, The Elite Speaker’s Bureau, Inc. is an avenue for the media to come find experts on these topics of violence.
Expert Speakers Include:
Carolyn Cox, Denise Brown, Johnny Lee, Pamela Harding, Susan Murphy-Milano, Tony Porter, Erin Runnion, Dr. Jill Murray, Susie Kroll, Jacqueline Marcell, Angela Shelton, Kimleigh Smith, Jayne Hitchcock, Tanya Brown and Patricia Wenskunas.
Rihanna showing courage and poise as she tells her story
November 6, 2009
National Teen Dating Abuse Hotline
We are seeing a third media frenzy over the Chris Brown and Rihanna story. This time, the world is seeing a poised and courageous Rihanna talk about a very confusing and painful time in her life. She is still trying to sort it out for herself.
One thing she has realized is that young girls are watching her and taking her actions seriously. In the Good Morning America interview, she said she could not take that “lightly.”
You may have noticed that some stories refer to her story as domestic violence and others as dating violence. It doesn’t really matter what you call it. Rihanna was hurt by a man who said he loved her. It was not her fault. It was his choice.
We will continue to see more of this story in the news as we all try to understand how this could have happened. It is a good discussion to have. Thank you, Rihanna for your willingness to share with us.
By Sheryl Cates
CEO, The Hotline and loveisrespect
Rihanna has shown tremendous courage in speaking out, and telling her story WILL SAVE LIVES.
As a celebrity who is admired by millions of young women around the world, Rihanna has the ability to capture the attention of the nation and inspire others to leave an abusive relationship before it is too late. She has chosen to speak out to ensure that young women going through similar situations will see that this is a serious issue and they need to take action. Her voice will give courage to women who are suffering in silence to speak out and take action.
I’ve been asked why Rihanna should feel embarrassed and ashamed and maybe even guilty, but these feelings are characteristic of what happens when violence takes place in an intimate relationship. You love this person and he hurt you. It still doesn’t mean that it is your fault. The violence was a choice that the abuser made.
Rihanna’s experience illustrates the need for education in schools. Dating violence is preventable. It is not an accident.
I encourage anyone who is in an abusive relationship to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1−800−787−3224. You can also visit www.thehotline.org for information. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week to help victims of domestic violence.
If you are a teen, sign on for a live chat with a peer advocate at www.loveisrespect.org or call us at 1-866-331-9474.
Call us. We are here to help 24 hours a day.