Shane Alexander Donates Proceeds From His Song “Look Out For Me” to Darkness to Light – an Organization to Help Prevent Child Sexual Abuse
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LA based singer/songwriter/guitarist Shane Alexander is paying it forward. He has written his latest song “Look Out For Me” to help the charity Darkness to Light, whose ultimate mission is to end childhood sexual abuse through education and awareness. CEO of Darkness to Light Anne Lee says, “Shane Alexander’s “Look Out for Me” is a beautiful, melodic reminder that our children need us and depend on us to protect their only childhood.”
Possessing a singularly evocative voice, Shane Alexander writes songs that Performing Songwriter Magazine has called “stunning,” and The Los Angeles Times described as “beautiful.” Shane has opened multiple US tours for Jewel and Seal and performed in Europe with Bon Iver and Suzanne Vega, among many others. Since his debut in 2005, he has released 4 solo albums, including his latest effort Mono Solo, on his own BuddhaLand Records imprint. No stranger to the road, he tours the US and Europe constantly. This fiercely independent artist has amassed a global fanbase and has nearly one million plays on MySpace to prove it. His popularity has been driven in part by over 50 television and film placements, including the season finale of MTV’s highly rated “My Life as Liz” (aired April 29th 2011). He has recently signed with Warner Chappell Publishing and Rough Trade Distribution in Europe.Even with all this success, Shane Alexander is finding the time to help others; he has a huge talent but a big heart to match it.
Shane Alexander’s current efforts have been directed at raising funds and awareness for the charity Darkness to Light (D2L). This is a cause Shane feels strongly about: “I believe in giving back as much as possible, and to lend my voice to an organization with such a noble mission just felt right. The statistics of childhood sexual abuse are pretty staggering, and Darkness to Light is working so hard to help prevent the suffering that these kids might face. It’s a real privilege for me to be working with such great people.” Shane Alexander was so compelled by what the charity stood for that it inspired him to write this touching and poignant song and to donate proceeds to the charity upon its release. Anne Lee believes that Shane Alexander’s song “has captured the pure essence of childhood that every adult needs to hear.”A portion of the proceeds from Shane’s US summer tour will be donated to the Darkness to Light as well.
Child sexual abuse is regarded as an epidemic. According to statistics from D2L, There are more than 39 million survivors of sexual abuse in America and they estimate that 1 in 4 girls will be sexually abused by the time she is 18. More than 90% of abusers are people children trust love and know.
Darkness to Light was founded in 2000 by Anne Lee, now President and CEO. The ultimate mission of D2L is to end childhood sexual abuse and empower adults through awareness and educational programs to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to childhood sexual abuse. Recently featured in April 4th 2011 issue of People Magazine’s Heroes Among Us, Anne Lee shared her story of abuse and how it led her to launching Darkness to Light. A true “hero among us,” Anne says, “Darkness to Light is honored to have had Shane write this song for our organization and we are excited about his working with us to raise awareness.” Darkness to Light and Shane Alexander are both dedicated to preventing sexual abuse in this lifetime.
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A building that once housed a daycare center and later became a “swingers’ club” in Mineola, Texas turned into a house of horrors for four children who were forced to perform sex acts on others and each other.
Shauntel Mayo, 29, the ringleader of this unthinkable abuse, made her three kids (then age 5, 6, and 7) and her own 6-year-old baby sister perform sex acts if they wanted dinner. “The unthinkable,” said Smith County assistant district attorney Joe Murphy. “She had her kids have sex with each other and taught them to masturbate. She taught them how to strip. She withheld food from them. All so she could make money.”
According to prosecutors, the kids were groomed for sex shows in what Mayo called “kindergarten” classes. At “kindergarten,” they said they learned how to strip, dance and perform sexual acts–first on dolls, then on each other. Upon “graduating” from “kindergarten,” they were forced to have sex with each other in front of 50 to 100 adult members of a swingers’ club once a week. Before going on stage, they were given the painkiller Vicodin — which their abusers called “silly pills” — to loosen them up for their performances. The children were forced to have sex with each other or perform sexual acts for club members who paid a fee to watch. Investigators believe up to 15 other children were victimized, and are still trying to locate them.
According to the Associated Press, the police department first investigated a complaint in June 2005 in which the siblings’ foster mother said one of the girls described dancing toward men and another child said that “everybody does nasty stuff in there.”
“We learned to strip (at ‘kindergarten’),” said the 7-year-old. ” I had to touch my privates with my sister’s and brother’s privates for the people in the club.”
The mother of the three siblings and her live-in boyfriend have already been convicted in the case and were sentenced to life in prison. A third person goes on trial today to face charges of aggravated sexual assault of a child, tampering with physical evidence and engaging in organized criminal activity. Four others are awaiting trial.
The siblings, who have been adopted and have gone through intense therapy, are now doing better, the welfare agency said. However, the man who gained permanent custody of the children, John Orville Cantrell, 64, of Mineola, was arrested last week for aggravated sexual assault of a child on a California case from 18 years ago.
His wife, Margie Cantrell, who has been a foster mom for 36 years, said Thursday she believes the accusations are in retaliation for their roles in the Mineola sex ring case. “What John and I want to do is continue to seek justice for the kids in this case,” she told the Tyler Paper. “And if we have to climb a few mountains to get there, it will be worth it. And at the end of all this, John will absolutely be proven innocent.”
What’s your reaction to this horrifying case?
One more reason, not that I personally need one but I WILL continue to make a bold effort to reach into communities across the country, as a Child Abuse Prevention Specialist and an authorized Facilitator for Stewards of Children through the Darkness to Light program, an organization whose mission is to train adults in every community to responsibly attack the issue of child sexual abuse. The focus of the Stewards of Children Program is to effectively shift the responsibility of recognizing and reacting to child sexual abuse to adults, and teach them how to make a local impact.
Won’t you take a stance? Won’t you be a leader in your community? Won’t you be a voice for innocent children? Enough is enough!
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Program trains adults to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to child sexual abuse
Taking a bold effort to reach into communities across the country, Anny Jacoby is a Prevention Specialist and an authorized Facilitator for Stewards of Children through the Darkness to Light program, an organization whose mission is to train adults in every community to responsibly attack the issue of child sexual abuse. The focus of the Stewards of Children Program is to effectively shift the responsibility of recognizing and reacting to child sexual abuse to adults, and teach them how to make a local impact.
“Stewards of Children is the only national program which is evidence-based and proven to increase knowledge, improve attitudes, and change child protective behaviors. Training is offered to community groups, parent groups, grand-parents, all organizations that serve children and youth (paid staff and/or volunteer), church congregations, every employee in school districts, coaches, law enforcement, etc. All adults.” (www.d2l.org)
Not only is the Stewards of Children a training program, but it’s also being used to change the way society looks upon child sexual abuse, to remove the secrecy, denial and fear and move the issue into the open where children can grow up in a safer environment, find assistance when needed, and know that there are responsible adults within the community to meet their needs.
Anny Jacoby, whose expertise is in personal safety and victim advocacy, has broadened the scope of her experience by joining forces with Darkness to Light and advocating through the Stewards of Children program.
Jacoby is also an independent Consultant for the organization and, if there is not the Stewards of Children program or it may be inactive in your community, she can assist in its development. She is also available for workshops and events to promote, educate and bring training of the program to your community. Anny can connect with area Prevention Specialists and Facilitators, and aid in reaching out to those who wish to provide adults with the training necessary to become actively involved in preventing and repairing the damage of child sexual abuse.
To arrange assistance from Anny Jacoby, she can be reached at email@example.com
The opening segment of a forthcoming autobiography by Sugar Ray Leonard runs counter to the cunning style he used in winning boxing championships in five weight divisions more than a quarter-century ago. It is more like hearing the bell, rushing to the center of the ring and being hit with a straight right hand.
Most fans of Leonard remember him for his sweet smile and lightning-fast hands, as a transcendent and breakout celebrity in a brutal profession. But by Page 36 of “The Big Fight: My Life In and Out of the Ring,” to be published next month by Viking, Leonard has mentioned his cocaine use, growing up in a home with alcohol abuse and domestic violence, luckily surviving a car wreck with his mother at the wheel, almost drowning in a creek as a child who was unable to swim, and fathering a son at 17.
Two pages later, Leonard delivers the book’s bombshell while indirectly addressing a growing concern in the sports industry at large. He reveals publicly for the first time that he was sexually abused as a young fighter by an unnamed “prominent Olympic boxing coach.”
Leonard writes that when the coach accompanied him as a 15-year-old and another young fighter to a boxing event in Utica, N.Y., in 1971, he had the teenagers take a bath in a tub of hot water and Epsom salts while he sat on the other side of the bathroom. They suspected “something a bit inappropriate” was occurring but did not want to question a strong male authority figure.
Several years later, Leonard describes sitting in a car in a deserted parking lot across from a recreation center, listening intently as the same coach, said to be in his late 40s, explained how much a gold medal at the 1976 Olympics would mean to his future.
Leonard was flattered, filled with hope, as any young athlete would be. But he writes: “Before I knew it, he had unzipped my pants and put his hand, then mouth, on an area that has haunted me for life. I didn’t scream. I didn’t look at him. I just opened the door and ran.”
He adds that when he first decided to discuss the incident in the book, which is written with Michael Arkush, he offered a version in which the abuser stopped before there was actual contact.
“That was painful enough,” Leonard writes. “But last year, after watching the actor Todd Bridges bare his soul on Oprah’s show about how he was sexually abused as a kid, I realized I would never be free unless I revealed the whole truth, no matter how much it hurt.”
Through his publisher, Leonard, who turned 55 on Tuesday, declined to comment for this article, saying that he would begin doing publicity for the book in June. But several people who were close to him when he was routinely banking multimillion-dollar purses for title bouts with Roberto Duran, Thomas Hearns and Marvin Hagler were taken aback when told of what he has revealed in the book.
“This is the first time I’ve ever heard that, and I’ve known Ray since he was just a kid,” Dave Jacobs, who was Leonard’s first trainer as an amateur and later served as assistant trainer for many of his professional fights, said in a telephone interview. “He never talked about that to me and no one in the group ever mentioned it, so I assume he never talked about it to them, either.
“But if that incident did happen, I feel sorry for him in that part of his life and for having to carry that around with him.”
Angelo Dundee, who achieved fame as Muhammad Ali’s trainer and later became the head man in Leonard’s corner, said he knew very little about his fighter’s personal lives and preferred it that way.
“Ray never mentioned anything, but I never mingled with anything to do with a fighter except fighting,” Dundee said from his Florida home. “You never wanted personal stuff getting in the way when you sent a kid into the ring. And as far as I could see, Ray was as mentally tough as they came.”
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On May 5th, Darkness to Light, Stop it Now!, and Prevent Child Abuse America jointly conducted a briefing for 18 US Department of Justice officials. The briefing was a huge success, resulting in commitments to look for ways to include child sexual abuse prevention into Department of Justice programs and grants.
A little background… Along with Stop It Now! and Prevent Child Abuse America, other leading national organizations, D2L is working with federal agencies to encourage the integration of prevention policies and practices into schools, child/youth-serving organizations, law enforcement agencies and other federally funded programs.
The federal government is the single largest funder of youth and children’s programs in the nation. Federal agencies have significant influence on child safety policies and practices. By integrating CSA prevention standards into federally-funded programs, these agencies have the potential to contribute to an improved society-wide standard of care.
Anny is a Certified Prevention Specialist with Darkness to Light. Scheduling Prevent Now! Meetings and Stewards of Children trainings. Contact Anny for details.
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Darkness to Light founder looks back on 10 years of protecting kids
October 22, 2010
Q: In 2000, you and a group of community activists founded Darkness to Light, a nonprofit program to educate people about the prevention of child sexual abuse through education and public awareness. What was your inspiration?
A: As an adult survivor of child sexual abuse, I started doing some research and realized this was much more than my unfortunate story. There are more than 42 million adult survivors, and child sexual abuse leads to decreased academic performance, obesity, depression, teen pregnancy, substance abuse, alcoholism — the list is long and nasty, and yet there was no national, adult-focused prevention-awareness program. We began creating what we had been in search of: a national program that communities/organizations could affiliate with, be a part of a national movement and not have to re-create the wheel.
Q: In order to hopefully help someone else, tell us as much as you are comfortable with about your experience with child sexual abuse. And how did you overcome it?
A: My story of sexual abuse started when I was a 4-year-old at an annual summer family reunion in central Florida. After dinner, the children were sent to bed and the grown-ups stayed up to play music, dance and have a great time. My (distant male relative) followed us up the hill to our house and made sure the kids were tucked in. Well, actually a lot more than tucking in and bedtime stories happened — at least to me. This was the beginning of years of sexual abuse by a trusted and loved family member. He told me I was a dirty little girl, and if my mother knew this about me, she would no longer love me. So silent I remained until I was 38. I’m happy to say once I told my parents, they believed and supported me. I knew if my parents had resources to teach them to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to sexual abuse, my childhood would have been very different. Sexual abuse will always be a hallmark in my life. I get to decide each day if it will be a defining hallmark. Most days, I choose not!
Q: How was Darkness to Light different from other child sexual abuse prevention programs in place at that time? How does the program work, and how did you come up with the name?
A: Ten years ago, there was little about the prevention of child sexual abuse. What did exist was child-focused: “Let’s tell our children to say no — tell and stop the abuse.” More than 90 percent of all child sexual abuse occurs with someone the child, and usually the family, knows and trusts. It’s not realistic to expect our children to say no/stop Uncle Frank or the beloved minister. Our Stewards of Children training is the only evidence-based prevention training available. We have a train-the-trainer model as well as an online training. It’s also available in Spanish. A really smart and creative woman in our community, Cindy Tew, came up with the name.
Q: It’s been 10 years since you started the program. How has it made a difference? How do you measure its success?
A: Our facilitators now number more than 2,800 (that number grows weekly with trainings all over the country) in 49 states and 11 countries. With more than 200,000 adults trained to look for signs of abuse, we know we have better protected over 2 million children! We have just started partnering with some key companies in the insurance industry, who get that our training lowers the risk of children being molested within youth-serving organizations, and we are partnering with The Y (formerly the YMCA) doing a national pilot and with Urban Ministries Inc., 40,000 African-American churches across the U.S.
Q: One in four girls will be sexually abused before her 18th birthday, as well as one in six boys. What is the typical age and gender of the abusers?
A: I do not know a typical age. But we do know the majority of offenders are male. Also the fastest-growing group of sex offenders are youths ages 10-17.
Q: About 40 percent of victims are abused by family members, and 90 percent know their abusers. How difficult is it to teach children and adults to deal with predatory family members and friends?
A: It’s always heart-wrenching to know someone we know and love would have forcible sex with a child. But in fact, almost 40 percent of sex offenders are within the family. What traits should family members look for? An adult who systematically creates alone time with a child and then there is a change of behavior within the child.
Q: How is this program funded? Is this a full-time job for you?
A: Product revenue, generous individuals, private foundations, corporations, special events and the federal government. Is this a full-time job? Beyond full time.
Q: What else are you passionate about?
A: My very great kid, Ansley.
Q: The program recently celebrated a major milestone, training more adults in Charleston, Dorchester and Berkeley counties than any other region in the country. The 22,500 participants represent 5 percent of the entire adult population. Tell us about that and your next goal for the organization.
A: Hitting the “tipping point” of 5 percent of the adult population in the tri-county was huge! We now see the theories of tipping point becoming reality — prevention becoming a part of our cultural expectations. We want communities across the country to learn from Charleston, and they are! Charleston once again is a first. But we are now working toward moving the tipping point to a majority of all adults in the tri-county area trained in prevention. We expect nothing less than a safe and healthy community for all Lowcountry children.
Compiled by Shirley A. Greene
Via The Post and Courier, Moxie Section
On behalf of all of the staff of D2L, thank you Anne for your courage and undying passion. We are so proud of all that D2L has accomplished and are honored to be a part of protecting the lives of children with you! Jolie Logan
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