Susan Murphy-Milano, Nationally Known Advocate and Author Has Been Called Home…

October 29, 2012

Susan Murphy-Milano

On Sunday, October 28, 2012 when many across the country were praying for Susan Murphy-Milano to find peace and to let God bring her home, she passed through the doorway of the mansion in heaven that was prepared for her.

Is she gone from us? No way.

Susan’s work lives on in each and every victim of violence that she figured out how to save, it goes on through each case she offered her expertise that got the attention it needed to make progress, she lives on through each friend who touched her life and to whom she gave so freely. Although her shoes can never be filled, her work will continue.

All of us have a favorite memory, picture and story about Susan. Please feel free to leave your words at Conquering Cancer in the comment section.

Memorial announcements will be made for a time in the future.

……Delilah Jones

Susan Murphy-Milano

was a nonfiction author, violence expert and host of the weekly radio crime show “Time’s Up” and author of a book by the same title.  Murphy-Milano, who grew up in Chicago, lived in Surfside Beach, South Carolina.


In January 1989, Murphy-Milano’s father, 30-year veteran Detective Phillip Murphy, a decorated Chicago Police violent crimes investigator, murdered her mother, Roberta, using his service weapon, a .44 magnum, and then took his own life by shooting himself in the head.  Afterward, Murphy-Milano, who discovered her parents’ bodies, vowed to change the way intimate partner crimes and homicides were handled and investigated.  She spent her career advocating for women and child victims of domestic violence.


Murphy-Milano was a nationally known women’s advocate who lobbied for the passage of 1993’s Illinois Stalking Law  and the Lautenberg Amendment of 1996, a domestic violence offender gun ban.

Murphy-Milano authored Defending Our Lives: Getting Away From Domestic Violence & Staying Safe, published by Doubleday, and Moving Out, Moving On, which focuses on when a relationship goes wrong. Times Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships, was released by the publishing on demand publisher, Dog Ear Press in 2010.  Author and former prosecutor Robin Sax, in a review for Psychology Today, wrote about the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA) included in the book.  “Murphy Milano reaches out and offers her hand — with a key (almost literally).  Thank you to Murphy-Milano for giving us … a succinct, well-written guidebook that is a must-have for anyone who is a victim or who works with victims of domestic abuse. ”

Murphay-Milano’s most recently published book, Holding My Hand Through Hell by Ice Cube Press details her life of abuse, murder, and domestic violence. “Life-affirming and thought provoking just like Susan. –Diane Fanning, New York Times Best-Selling Author.

Murphy-Milano often spoke to law enforcement, at schools and before groups advocating victims’ rights.   Also, she worked with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education.

Susan Murphy Milano was a specialist and expert in intimate partner violence and worked nationally with corporations, faith based organizations, domestic violence programs, law enforcement, and prosecutors providing technical and consulting services in high risk domestic violence and stalking related cases. Her principal objective was to intervene before a victim was seriously injured or killed. Utilizing a procedure which she devised, The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, Murphy Milano’s clients are all still alive a statistic that is remarkable considering the distinct increase in intimate partner homicides.  Document the Abuse.Com offers pertinent information for victims leaving abusive relationships.

In addition, she and her work have been prominently featured in newspapers, magazines, radio, and television including: The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Radio, ABC S 20/20, Justice Files, E-True Hollywood, CNN, Sunday Today Show Profile, Women s Day, Family Circle, US News and World Report to name a few. She has frequently participated in guest media commentary panels on major and recently appeared on the A&E Biography of Drew Peterson. She is a well known radio host, regularly hosting The Susan Murphy Milano Show, Time s Up! on the Zeus Media Network, also she appeared on Crime Wire on BlogTalk Radio, and was a regular weekly co-host on the nationally syndicated The Roth Show.

Her books, Defending Our Lives; Moving Out, Moving On; Times Up!, Holding My Hand Through Hell and corresponding strategies will continue to be taught world-wide and used by law enforcement, social workers, attorneys, health care workers, human resource departments and domestic violence agencies.

Various contributors including Wikipedia 

Blessings my Sister and Friend, you will truly be missed.


  1. survivorsjustice
    October 29, 2012 at 2:04 PM

    Reblogged this on survivorsjustice and commented:
    Her presence is not gone, Susan will be living in the lives of millions by the many books and the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit; all of them she created to SAVE LIVES OF THOSE SHE DIDN’T KNOW!! This was her spirit, she was a justice seeker for those who had no voice. I will miss her dearly and having just gotten the news of her passing am still in the midst of disbelief. Susan was a huge beacon of light in my life and I know she will be in the lives of those who use her books and her tools designed to help them escape a violent relationship, move on with their lives, stay safe, and if unfortunately necessary; to speak from the grave. Anny your letter to Michelle Obama should earn Susan the recognition she is so deserving of and place her in line for the Nobel Peace Prize. No one has worked as diligently to protect the lives of women and children of domestic/initmate violence with the true devotion as this amazing woman shared. Susan will always be in my spirit pushing me forward and tapping me with her ever determined nature: “Get out of your own way Trish and do what you need to do. Don’t have a pity party and feel sorry and helpless, just live and do what you need to.” This is the Susan I knew, shared phoned calls with, did a couple of radio shows with and truly admired. In loving memory Susan, may God and the Angels keep you forever safe. much sadness over this loss and it will be felt for years to come through women and men of this crime who will benefit greatly from her masterful creations. blessings and sadness, trish

  2. frizzy
    October 29, 2012 at 4:55 PM

    didnt know her but I am a survivor and I hope she knew how much of a difference she made in others lives…gone too soon

  3. October 31, 2012 at 12:10 PM

    Reblogged this on Battered Mothers – A Human Rights Issue and commented:
    I love you Susan!! 😦

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