Stalking Awareness Month ~ January 2011

January 2, 2011


Angela’s Nightmare…..

This nightmarish hell of an existence went on for 9 months.  Then he was caught leaving her apartment while she was at work one day.  He had taken a radio from her apartment. She pressed charges against him. However, he was released on bail.  Now the phone calls varied between begging and threatening for her to drop the charges.  But she refused.  Perhaps this is what pushed him to stab her 24 times the day before his court hearing. . . perhaps it was more.  The only thing I truly know is that I will never see her smile again.  She’ll never come bouncing in the room, spreading cheer.  She’ll never sit and reminisce with me again.  Her son will never know what a wonderful loving mother he had or what she sacrificed to try to give him a “normal” life.

Stalking is a repetitive pattern of unwanted, harassing or threatening behavior committed by one person against another.  Acts include: telephone harassment, being followed, receiving unwanted gifts, and other similar forms of intrusive behavior.  All states and the Federal Government have passed anti-stalking legislation.  Definitions may vary state-to-state but most define stalking as “the willful, malicious, and repeated following and harassing of another person that threatens his or her safety”.

Stalking is about obsession.  It may be motivated by an intense affection or an extreme dislike.  Stalking is very common.  One out of twelve females that YOU know and one out of forty-five men that  YOU know have been stalked.

Men commit most stalking and stalking has become one of the most dreaded crimes against women in recent years.  Many women know their stalker personally and as a result, are hesitant to believe the situation is potentially dangerous.  Being aware of these alarming signals can help you determine if you are being stalked and what you can do about it.

Reblog this post [with Zemanta]As a stalking victim, one of the most important things for you to remember is you neither wanted this, asked for it, nor do you deserve this.

There are basic steps that can be followed to help ensure your safety, but it does entail changing y our normal day to day routines and your way of life, as you once knew it.  You have no choice at this point.  The stalker won’t change so it’s up to you.  Is it fair?  Hell no, but it’s your safety and your life that we’re talking about, so you are the one who has to make the change.


First and foremost, have no contact with  your stalker.

As a stalking victim, you are frustrated, you are angry, you are in fear for your life.  How often have you wanted to scream into the phone after receiving a harassing call or confront the stalker and demand to be left alone?  You may want a friend or relative to tell the stalker to stop bothering you.  DON’T DO IT.  The stalker feeds on your attention and anyone close to you.  Your stalker doesn’t hear you screaming “leave me alone.”  If you do this, the stalker knows you’re once again paying attention to him/her, whether it’s direct contact with you or through a third party.  That’s what a stalker wants – attention, and that can be dangerous. Only the police should contact or confront the stalker.  Keep a Stalker and Incident Behavior Log for reference.

Take care and STAY SAFE!

  1. January 10, 2011 at 12:12 PM

    Thank you for posting this information, stalking is very frightening. It’s so important to know your surroundings.

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