ASSAILANTS HAVE NO FACES
ASSAILANTS HAVE NO FACES
Disclaimer – this post is not meant in any way to insinuate that any male, job capacity, race, etc. to be a determining factor of crime; but rather give insight and education to females as well as to those reading.
Can you HONESTLY tell by looking at a male if he is a potential assailant or that he has assaulted or harmed another female?
The messages that are being sent to females are extremely confusing. From a young age we are taught and encouraged to seek the help and assistance of a law enforcement officer in time of need; extend our hand to a firefighter if we are in a car accident or a burning home/building and has been summoned to our rescue to help and assist. We look at males in our military with utmost admiration and respect as they are trained extensively to protect and defend. We are taught that any man in a uniform is “safe” and that they portray a “safe haven”; Our Heroes. Don’t forget doctors, EMT’s, male nurses and more. The uniform………
We are also given the impression that a male in a three piece suit is of respect, professionals, school teachers and coaches; young men that wear nice clothing, educated and/or “jocks” are “safe men”. On the flip side…..we are taught, “do not talk to strangers”; homeless males are “bad” and “unsafe”; any male that wears baggy clothing should be watched closely and are marked as “unsafe men”. You get the picture(s) and I am sure that you can visualize more males in different occupations and status as well. More than I am mentioning.
You are wondering, why such a disturbing, blunt post? The accused assailant is a police officer, a man to uphold the law and he WAS IN MY BACKYARD with access to many female students and well as our community. And, this assault has literally been “hush-hush” in our local media. THE OFFICER WORKED AT DUKE UNIVERISTY! However, this could happen, happened or will happen in any community.
The recent arrest of Duke University Police Officer, Webster Delenn Simmons has been charged with felony first-degree rape and felony first-degree sodomy in Dothan, Alabama, Houston County. Simmons is being held in jail in lieu of $120,000 bail. Officer Simmons has been with the university department for over a year. Prior to working at Duke he was a Raleigh, NC police officer (1998-2007) The actions of this police officer has stirred me, and others in so many ways.
Now this officer finds himself on the other side of the law.
Detectives seized evidence from inside Simmons auto which included two pair of handcuff’s, a ball gag, thick white rope, an unknown power source with wires attached to a nail, along with a whip and flog. Simmons was in possession of his full police uniform, gun belt and police handcuffs at the time of his arrest. Houston County Sheriff’s investigators believe Simmons gagged and handcuffed a local woman of Dothan (his relative!, 34 years of age) after they went to a club Saturday night. The victim was found bound and gagged. This assault was definitely a bondage rape. The victim woke up early Saturday morning handcuffed and with a ball gag in her mouth. While at the club the victim bought all of her own drinks at the club, except the last one was purchased by Simmons. Investigators do believe that she was drugged as she was ill after she woke up.
Simmons is obviously not Andy Griffith. Jeez, I wonder why he is wearing a bullet proof vest in his picture at the time of his arrest???????
Simmons has been suspended from duty at Duke University as a result of his arrest. Duke University officials are cooperating with the investigation.
Our young daughters, sisters, or friends are sent off to college and university campus all over this country. And, they are told where police officers can be located on campus and that they are safe. They are told that officers are there to protect them – just go to the “blue phone” on campus and officers will be summoned. They are given emergency campus telephone numbers if needed.
I do believe in my heart that one bad apple doesn’t spoil the bunch but if I did not bring such disturbing and false information to the attention of young ladies and parents I would be remiss of my beliefs and profession. Ultimately, an assailant DOES NOT HAVE A FACE. Anyone can be an assailant just as any female can be a victim.
Females cannot depend on anyone but themselves to protect and defend themselves. Bottom-line. Every female must be educated in all respects to rape and assault prevention. Females must learn about awareness, pro-active options, safety tips and yes – ultimately how they can PROTECT AND DEFEND themselves physically in the event of an altercation.
The victim was pro-active with purchasing her own drinks until she allowed Simmons to purchase the last round. And, as reports have it – she was a relative! She trusted him and he was an officer of the law. Unfortunately, you can’t even depend on a relative not to harm you. This is so sad but unfortunately crimes are committed against anyone by anyone.
This does not mean that you have to live being paranoid – your awareness must be heightened. You must know the warning signs and red flags. You are not at zero option what-so-ever. You must learn how to be pro-active in a group, at the clubs, on campus and in university cities/towns. You’d rather be safe than sorry.
I encourage all females of all ages to learn Rape/Assault Prevention: YOURS!
Take care and STAY SAFE!