Fayetteville, Cumberland County, North Carolina prosecutors said Wednesday that they plan to seek the death penalty against the man charged with killing a 5-year-old Fayetteville girl, Shaniya Davis almost two years ago but not against the girl’s mother.
Mario Andrette McNeill, 30, has been charged with murder, kidnapping and rape in the death of Shaniya Davis, whose body was found in a kudzu patch near the Lee-Harnett county line on Nov. 16, 2009, six days after her mother, Antoinette Nicole Davis, reported her missing from their Fayetteville home.
Authorities believe Antoinette Davis is complicit in her daughter’s death. Arrest warrants stated that she “did knowingly provide Shaniya with the intent that she be held in sexual servitude” and “did permit an act of prostitution with Shaniya.”
An autopsy determined that Shaniya died of asphyxiation and that injuries she suffered were consistent with a sexual assault. A medical examiner noted in the autopsy that investigators believe the girl was used to pay off a drug debt.
A Cumberland County grand jury indicted Antoinette Davis in July on charges of first-degree murder, indecent liberties with a child, felony child abuse, felony sexual servitude, rape of a child, sexual offense of a child by an adult offender, human trafficking and making a false police report.
She was arraigned Wednesday, and a judge set her bond on the murder charge at $2 million. Bonds totaling $1.5 million were set previously on the other charges.
McNeill, whom police have described as a friend of the family, is being held without bond at Central Prison in Raleigh.
Courtesy of WRAL
Will there ever be justice fo Shaniya Davis? Personally, there will never be ENOUGH justice served for this precious child.
There are two primary types of self-defense methods: proactive and reactive. Ideally, you will employ a combination of proactive self -defense methods and not have to rely on your reactive self-defense methods for dealing with potential violence and attackers.
What is Proactive Self Defense?
As the name implies, proactive self-defense are techniques you use before someone attacks you. Being proactive should prevent a dangerous or violent situation from happening and gives you time to put space between you and the possible assailant. For example, if you’re walking down the street and see someone who looks a bit suspicious or who otherwise makes you uncomfortable you have the opportunity to employ proactive self-defense. You can cross the street so you’re walking on the opposite side as the individual you’re unsure about. You can go into a store or public place if you’re in a location where that is possible. Proactive self-defense gives you the opportunity to possibly avoid a confrontation.
When you’re aware of what’s going on around you and of potential dangers, you have time to think about a strategy if a threat occurs. If an attack seems like it’s about to happen, you can make sure you are ready to act giving yourself a better chance at stunning the attacker rather than waiting until he or she is attacking you before trying to make a move.
Being proactive means you’re paying attention to your surroundings. If you’re walking with your head in the clouds and your MP3 player blaring in your ears, you give up your opportunity to be proactive and avoid a potentially dangerous or violent situation. Get the ear buds OUT OF YOUR EARS unless you are in a gym. Do not voluntarily take any of your senses away at any given time.
What is Reactive Defense?
Once you’ve been attacked, the opportunity for proactive defense is gone and now you must employ reactive self-defense methods in order to get away from the attacker. If someone jumps on your back while walking through a dark parking lot, you’re going to have an awfully hard time digging the pepper spray out from the bottom of your bag and spraying an attacker while he or she is attacking you. (I do not promote weapons such as pepper spray, guns, etc. = false security.)
Once you are being attacked the only thing you can do is react to the situation. You have no time to prepare or possibly prevent the situation from happening. Reactive self-defense techniques include physical fighting and attempting to outrun an attacker.
Now take a moment and ask yourself, would you rather be proactive or reactive? Not a tough choice but how many females actually know or learn how to be proactive? The number of females that know how to effectively protect and defend themselves is a small percentage to those that do not.
Any type or form of self-defense begins with knowledge and education. Prevention is the key, being proactive. Unfortunately we are not born with this knowledge, we are born with instincts but we have to be educated on the correct way to use them and how to physically defend ourselves.
I have a challenge for each of you. For one week, set a “daily” Google alert for domestic violence, sexual assault, rape, teen dating violence, abduction, bullying, stalking, murder and any other form of abuse or assault that you can think of that occurs over and over and over, hourly, daily. Read each alert that you get in your email. I mean go to the link and read the horrific reports that you receive. Read each one at least twice. Feel the pain, the turmoil; go to that dark place and put yourself in the victim’s situation. Then go look in the mirror and look at yourself and tell yourself that you have not been given a “free pass” to the possibility of being victimized. Yes, you are special but you must get your head out of the sand and realize that you are not exempt. If you are not educated, if you are not proactive nor know how to be you don’t have a snowballs chance in hell that you would survive an assault. You see anyone can and is victimized. Victimization does not discriminate.
So what do you do now? The majority of females will do nothing, absolutely nothing. Why? Because they have the mentality that “it won’t happen to me”. This post is meant to be a major wake-up call and I pray that I am reaching someone out here.
Google the murder of Jayna Murray in an upscale yoga store in Bethesda, Maryland on March 11, 2010 . When the report originally aired it was reported that two employees were assaulted and one, Jayna Murray was murdered during a botched robbery which escalated. This crime circulated on Saturday when the employee’s were found by a co-worker. Bethesda, surrounding areas, the entire country – females went into panic mode. How could this happen in Bethesda of all places? How could this have happened to Jayna, she was an awesome, sweet, loving person? And, her co-worker assaulted, alive but would live with this horrific crime for the rest of her life.
The country went into a tail spin, stunning everyone. The media went crazy and females everywhere were actively seeking some kind of self-defense training because FINALLY THEY GOT A WAKE-UP CALL!
Why in God’s name does something terrible have to happen for females to get it? Why does it take horrific crimes to be committed against females that gain media attention to make you/them look past their noses?
We now know that Jayna and her co-worker, Brittany Norwood was not sexually assaulted and Norwood has been allegedly charged with Jayna Murray’s murder. But……..what if? What if these two women were sexually assaulted, beaten, murdered and tied up? Can you even begin to imagine?
Now…..things are quieting down because Jayna wasn’t assaulted and murdered by a male. Females will go about their business and become complacent. SHAME ON YOU/THEM!
Perhaps if a victim is educated and knows how to “effectively and realistically” defend herself it doesn’t matter if her assailant is a male or female she would have a fighting chance. Don’t you think?
In order kids to drive, drivers of any age have to attend so many hours of classroom study and must drive with an instructor a set number of hours BEFORE obtaining a license to drive alone. In reality, what are the states teaching these new drivers??????? Defensive driving! Bingo! While driving you are taught to ALWAYS be watching out for the other drivers, anticipating their moves while driving.
I leave you with this thought……..since we teach DEFENSIVE driving techniques why in the world wouldn’t every female want to be taught HOW TO PROTECT AND DEFEND HERSELF? A car can be replaced, a life cannot whether in a car or from an assault.
Do something for yourself, don’t make your parents “make” you take a personal safety course (that’s another post as to what to look for in an effective course). You are not invincible, you are human!
March 21, 2011 Jayna Murray’s Parents Speak Out on GMA:
Jayna never mentioned the woman, Norwood to them. As the news broke of Jayna’s murder and spread thoughout the D.C. suburb that a killer was on the loose, Mrs. Murray said, “It’s the rumors that kill and it just burns you inside.” The family of Jayna Murray is healing through launching a foundation to remember the adventure seeking young women who loved to go bungee jumping. Jayna’s father reflects upon Jayna’s life stating, “One (Jayna) of the most fearless people I’ve every known in my life and that’s the objective as a father can get. I really admired her for everything she did and everything she represented.”
The family has created the Janya Troxel Murray Foundation to remember Janya’s life. For more information on the Janya Troxel Murray Foundation or to send a donation please send your donation to: The Janya Troxel Murray Foundation, P. O. Box 9492, The Woodlands, Texas 77387.
Keeping Jayna, family and friends in our thoughts and prayers. Blessings.
Your comments, feelings and thoughts are welcome. Please leave a comment.
Kids on Facebook – Every parent, adult and child must be educated about internet safety. Please read, digest and share the following information with your loved ones and others. You never know how many lives you may touch today.
After tossing her books on the sofa, she decided to grab a snack and get on-line. She logged on under her screen name ByAngel213. She checked her Buddy List and saw GoTo123 was on. She sent him an instant message:
ByAngel213:
Hi. I’m glad you are on! I thought someone was following me home today. It was really weird!
GoTo123:
LOL You watch too much TV. Why would someone be following you? Don’t you live in a safe neighborhood?
ByAngel213:
Of course I do. LOL I guess it was my imagination cuz’ I didn’t see anybody when I looked out.
GoTo123:
Unless you gave your name out on-line. You haven’t done that have you?
ByAngel213:
Of course not. I’m not stupid you know.
GoTo123:
Did you have a softball game after school today?
ByAngel213:
Yes, and we won!!
GoTo123:
That’s great! Who did you play?
ByAngel213:
We played the Hornets. LOL. Their uniforms are so gross! They look like bees. LOL
GoTo123:
What is your team called?
ByAngel213:
We are the Canton Cats. We have tiger paws on our uniforms. They are really cool.
GoTo123:
Did you pitch?
ByAngel213:
No, I play second base. I got to go. My homework has to be done before my parents get home. I don’t want them mad at me. Bye!
GoTo123:
Catch you later. Bye
Meanwhile, GoTo123 went to the member menu and began to search for her profile. When it came up, he highlighted it and printed it out. He took out a pen and began to write down what he knew about Angel so far.
Her name: Shannon
Birthday: Jan. 3, 1985
Age: 13
State where she lived: North Carolina
Hobbies: softball, chorus, skating and going to the mall. Besides this information, he knew she lived in Canton because she had just told him. He knew she stayed by herself until 6:30 p.m. every afternoon until her parents came home from work. He knew she played softball on Thursday afternoons on the school team, and the team was named the Canton Cats. Her favorite number 7 was printed on her jersey. He knew she was in the eighth grade at the Canton Junior High School. She had told him all this in the conversations they had on-line. He had enough information to find her now.
Shannon didn’t tell her parents about the incident on the way home from the ballpark that day. She didn’t want them to make a scene and stop her from walking home from the softball games. Parents were always overreacting and hers were the worst. It made her wish she was not an only child. Maybe if she had brothers and sisters, her parents wouldn’t be so overprotective.
By Thursday, Shannon had forgotten about the footsteps following her.
Her game was in full swing when suddenly she felt someone staring at her. It was then that the memory came back. She glanced up from her second base position to see a man watching her closely.
He was leaning against the fence behind first base and he smiled when she looked at him. He didn’t look scary and she quickly dismissed the sudden fear she had felt.
After the game, he sat on a bleacher while she talked to the coach. She noticed his smile once again as she walked past him.. He nodded and she smiled back. He noticed her name on the back of her shirt. He knew he had found her.
Quietly, he walked a safe distance behind her. It was only a few blocks to Shannon’s home, and once he saw where she lived he quickly returned to the park to get his car.
Now he had to wait. He decided to get a bite to eat until the time came to go to Shannon’s house. He drove to a fast food restaurant and sat there until time to make his move.
Shannon was in her room later that evening when she heard voices in the living room.
“Shannon, come here,” her father called. He sounded upset and she couldn’t imagine why. She went into the room to see the man from the ballpark sitting on the sofa.
“Sit down,” her father began, “this man has just told us a most interesting story about you.”
Shannon sat back. How could he tell her parents anything? She had never seen him before today!
“Do you know who I am, Shannon ?” the man asked.
“No,” Shannon answered.
“I am a police officer and your online friend, GoTo123.”
Shannon was stunned. “That’s impossible! GoTo123 is a kid my age! He’s 14. And he lives in Michigan !”
The man smiled. “I know I told you all that, but it wasn’t true. You see, Shannon , there are people on-line who pretend to be kids; I was one of them. But while others do it to injure kids and hurt them, I belong to a group of parents who do it to protect kids from predators. I came here to find you to teach you how dangerous it is to talk to people on-line. You told me enough about yourself to make it easy for me to find you. You named the school you went to, the name of your ball team and the position you played. The number and name on your jersey just made finding you a breeze.”
Shannon was stunned. “You mean you don’t live in Michigan ?”
He laughed. “No, I live in Raleigh . It made you feel safe to think I was so far away, didn’t it?”
She nodded.
“I had a friend whose daughter was like you. Only she wasn’t as lucky. The guy found her, did bad things to her and then murdered her while she was home alone. Kids are taught not to tell anyone when they are alone, yet they do it all the time on-line. The wrong people trick you into giving out information a little here and there on-line. Before you know it, you have told them enough for them to find you without even realizing you have done it. I hope you’ve learned a lesson from this and won’t do it again. And, please tell others about this so they will be safe too, okay?”
“It’s a promise!”
That night Shannon and her Dad and Mom thanked God for protecting Shannon from what could have been a tragic situation.
Traveling shouldn’t mean checking your rights when you’re checking your luggage. Yet, more and more, the Department of Homeland Security (DHS) is asking Americans to sacrifice their privacy for an illusion of security.
A 56-year-old woman who says she is a rape victim was arrested and banned from Austin-Bergstrom International Airport Wednesday after refusing to receive a pat down from a Transportation Security Agency (TSA) officer.
Claire Hirschkind could not receive a body scan because of a pacemaker-type device in her chest and was escorted to a female TSA officer to receive an enhanced pat down.
“I told them, ‘No, I’m not going to have my breasts felt,’ and she said, ‘Yes, you are,’” Hirschkind told KVUE.
After refusing to receive the enhanced pat down, she was arrested.
“The police actually pushed me to the floor, and handcuffed me,” she said. “I was crying by then. They drug me 25 yards across the floor in front of the whole security.”
Hirschkind said her constitutional rights were violated.
About 70 airports have put into use over 400 backscatter x-ray machines that can see beneath passengers’ clothing. Passengers who set off a metal detector or body scan machine or refuses to be scanned receive an invasive physical pat down.
The American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU) said it received over 900 complaints from travelers in November who were subjected to the new screening procedures of the TSA.
“Under the newly implemented enhanced pat-down, a TSA officer sliders his or her hands over an individual’s breasts, buttocks, groin, and inner thighs, and inserts his or her fingers inside the entire circumference of the pant’s waistband,” a lawsuit filed against Homeland Security Secretary Janet Napolitano and TSA administrator John Pistole stated.
“Although it is well established that subjecting airline passengers to limited searches designed to detect weapons and explosives is consistent with the Fourth Amendment, it is equally well established that such searches must be reasonable,” the lawsuit added.
In response to the incident at the Austin-Bergstrom International Airport, the TSA issued a statement saying “our officers are trained to treat all passengers with dignity and respect” but that “security is not optional.” ”Dignity and respect”, perhaps the entire TSA should schooled on these two words since they are surely displaying that they truly do not understand same.
“The government must keep us safe, but it must do so in a way that is sensible, effective and constitutional,” Laura W. Murphy, Director of the ACLU Washington Legislative Office, said. “The new ‘enhanced’ security methods are far more intrusive than other methods but have not been shown to be any more effective. Nobody should be forced to choose between ‘naked scans’ and intrusive groping by strangers to keep our airplanes safe.”
****Why isn’t the TSA reporting about the security measures being taken about the people who clean the planes or stocks the food and beverage between flights?
****Why are they not disclosing in full the security for the employees of the airlines who are handling scanning and checking baggage that goes into the belly of the planes to give us, civilians peace of mind?
****Why is no one focusing on these areas as civilians are being striped of our constitutional rights?
****And, what about the large cargo that is being flown in the belly of the planes…do they have scanners down below large enough to handle scanning these or are they ripping apart the cargo and boxing them back up? If so, do they have trained military in place to do this job or bomb sniffing dogs?
TSA is no way equivalent to our military to perform these tasks from security of civilians to the belly of the planes.
You cannot tell me that none of you have not thought about the above.
Again, our CHOICE has been stripped away from us; I would love to see more of our government leaders be exposed to these invasive procedures rather than having the cushy entrance by security, flying their private planes – and come down to reality. But then again, “they” forget where they came from and money talks.
It personally makes me ill when individuals see NO problem with these “enhanced pat-downs” from the victimization aspect. What the hell is wrong with people? These people have no damn idea what it is like to be victimized.
I have learned over the last month that it is not worth getting into a verbal match with ignorance. They will never understand nor have respect for victimization. This is a loud and clear message to me about these individuals. Everyone is entitled to their opinion but you know something……..the majority of these individuals are MEN that are raising hell about females objecting to such invasive and intrusive measures. For those men, I personally have no respect for them; they couldn’t even begin to walk a mile in our shoes. For the men that are standing up against these drastic measures for themselves, females and children I commend and thank you.
Obviously there was no one in the “decision making arena” that has EVER been victimized nor thought of the possibility of humiliation that has and will be part of these measures.
“If you don’t want to go through the full body scanner and/or be subjected to a full body pat-down by the TSA then stay home.”
“There are other options of travel, drive, take a train or a bus.”
“I would rather go through these procedures than be blown up in a plane, it means safer flights then I have no problem with either procedure.”
I am personally so sick and tired of individuals responding to the valid objections of the recent new TSA screening that includes full body scanners and enhanced pat-downs. Believe me I am all for Homland Security and our safety is of the utmost importance; however, TSA Screeners are MISSING weapons in carry-on luggage as reported by Brian Ross with ABC News last week! Isn’t there something wrong with this picture?
Pamela Chapman provided us with an excellent post on this subject on the “Time’s Up!” blog last Thursday. I personally agree with every valid point that she made.
People….our choice and Fourth Amendment rights (The Fourth AmendmentAmendment IV to the United States Constitution is the part of the Bill of Rights which guards against unreasonable searches and seizures.) have infact been striped away from us. What’s next?
TSA pat-downs can be traumatizing and “re-traumatizing”. Even John Pistole, the TSA administrator acknowledged in recent Senate hearing that when he received one, he found it “more invasive than I’m used to.” Mr. Pistole, you have no idea what invasive is until you have been sexually violated.
Reminder of Definition of Sexual Assault:
A sexual assault occurs when someone touches any part of another person’s body in a sexual way, even through clothes, without that person’s consent.
You can fight back with following explicit instructions. You have rights and by “fighting back” I am referring to via the Police Departments and Sexual Assault Investigators/Detectives within the police departments, FBI and the media.
Get to the airport early.
First, calmly and respectfully tell the TSA Screener that you are objecting to the invasive body search even though you are not being given a choice to either refuse it or leave the airport.
This means that you are being forced against your will to submit. If they tell you that you must submit, then it is like a man putting a knife to your throat and giving you no choice. You are forced either way.
Make sure your verbal objections are heard and let the “pat-down” be done out in the open where it can be seen. Be sure that you obtain the TSA Screener’s name mentally during the “enhanced pat-down”. Make absolute sure to pay attention to the private areas of the body that have been touched for reporting. After they are done assaulting you, your wife, your husband, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, daughter or son do the following:
Step away from the screening area, take a deep breath and dial 911 from your cell phone and report being sexually assaulted. Give the 911 dispatcher your name and location. By calling 911, the call gets sent out to whatever the city’s central emergency dispatch location is. Also by placing this call the call goes around the TSA and the Airport Police and gets recorded and logged for records. This means that the police have to treat it like any other sex assault and cannot just blow you off. 911 call frequencies are also monitored by every large city’s TV News Stations! Sex Crimes Detectives will be notified.
You can call 911 as the assault is happening, just make sure that the call gets through and you give a good description to the dispatcher.
Give the 911 dispatcher your name, (if you are calling for someone else, the victim’s name) and a description of the TSA Screener as well as the Airport and security checkpoint and/or the gate location. When the police arrive, fill out a statement, demand to speak to a Sex Crimes Detective and file charges.
Another option when you travel, have a friend or relative get a Gate Pass from the Airline and go through security with you. Again, tell the TSA Screener to do the enhanced pat-down out in the open. After or as they are assaulting you, your friend or relative can dial 911 and report a sexual assault in progress.
If you have been assaulted recently but you did not call the Police, please Google the Police Department of the city of the airport that you were assaulted at by the TSA. Then ask to speak to the Sex Crimes Detectives Unit and file reports, demand to press charges to initiate an investigation. If you are back home in another city, make a statement to your local Police Department’s Sex Crimes Unit and they can fax it to the Police Department of the city in which the assault occurred.
We must be pro-active as well as educated as to how to file sexual assault charges against the TSA screeners if you feel that you have been sexually assaulted. Listen to the media interview below with Erin Chase from Dayton, Ohio who has pressed charges against the TSA agent for sexual assault.
After you have filed your report wait and watch. If the police move fast you don’t want to do anything to jeopardize the investigation. The media may get wind of the assault through sources that they have at the police departments.
Once you get to your destination go online and obtain the TV News station website of the city that you were assaulted in. Remember, keep tabs on the investigation. Consider sending an anonymous news tip about the charges to their News Tip email department. If you wish to give your name as Erin did do so. With or without your name, don’t be afraid to tip off the media if it is necessary; the more they report on passengers filing Sexual Assault charges against TSA screener’s the worse it is for the TSA and the better for passengers.
If your child has been assaulted do the same exact thing or call 911 as it is happening and report a sexual assault of a minor or child in progress. Follow the above directions.
The city police department must get involved and so will the media when they hear the 911 call. The 911 emergency call can make so much difference for your case.
It is my understanding that this is the best, cheapest and most effective way to fight back. As long as they forcefully grope vaginal, breast and groin areas (which the TSA Screener’s are doing), and are forcing you to stay or face a financial penalty (which they are), you can legally file a sexual assault complaint and make that 911 call. If this is done enough perhaps the police and the FBI will be forced into action.
Keep in mind, city Police Departments over the years have arrested TSA Screener’s for theft committed while searching passenger’s belongings – they can obviously do the same for a sex crime – which the “enhanced” pat-downs clearly are.
Even if the TSA Assailants do not go to trial, they will still have a Sex Crimes related ARREST or investigation on their record for life! TSA Screeners need to step up and be heard as well, “enhanced pat-downs” were not part of their job description. They need to be heard by the TSA and Government as well that they feel, that they assaulting innocent civilians. If you are ordered to do something illegal then why in the world would you do it? Don’t just stand there and shake your head “yes” to everything you are being told. You allknow that these procedures are illegal and you know that your A$$ is potentially on the line.
Police Departments have to investigate every reported Sex Crime that takes place in their city and airports themselves as part of the city and local governments. Calling your Congressmen AFTER you’ve reported the assault wouldn’t hurt either.
Children gone missing, abducted, sexually assaulted, raped or killed will shock any society. But are our governing bodies doing enough to track the children that are reported missing each year?
Every single day sickening reports emerge of missing and murdered children make headlines. But what is more worse is that many predators are receiving shelter from judges who are allowing them back out on the streets to stalk and molest their next victim/victims–as if this practice should be accepted or tolerated.
Disappearance could be categorized as family abduction, non-family abduction, runaways, throwaways (abandoned children), or lost and ‘otherwise missing’ children.
TEN REASONS WHY CHILDREN DISAPPEAR:
1. The common reasons are Divorce and parental disputes. In relation to child custody, there are times when one parent wants to relocate or move to another location. When the parents do not agree one of the parents may take the child and go underground, may change their names. The parent may change his or her occupation and the parent and child can completely drop off the face of the earth for awhile, maybe forever.
In this type of abduction, the family of the abductor usually knows where the child is. However, many times they do not want to come forward with the information.
2. America as we know it has always been considered a safety zone. That is why so many people come to this country. We never think that when we leave our children alone, going to school for example, someone is watching. When we leave them to play in the front yard, someone is watching. When we leave them for a moment in the Grocery Store, someone is watching. When we let them go to the Mall, someone is watching.
Why are predators watching us? Because it’s easy for them. They look like the guy next door. They go to work every day, they smile. They play with their dog and our dog too. They are at Church or in a neighborhood meeting. They are in the P.T.A.
Predators are everywhere in our community. They are involved in everything we do including walking and watching our children walk to school.
3. Many children are abducted by their non-custodial parent however it could be another family; an Aunt, an Uncle, a mother’s boyfriend, someone who has developed a relationship with the child and believes he or she is in love with the child. Then that person uses the child for whatever reason the need may be.
4. The world we live in is no stranger to one of the biggest reasons many of our children disappear without a trace. Many children are abducted and sold for body parts throughout the United States, Central America, South America and Europe. The Internet has become one of the greatest sources of business and the organized underground business is one of the most successful businesses anywhere in the world.
Can you imagine having the need of life and searching the Internet and finding a broker who can find you the organ of your choice? Here in the U.S.A., in Mexico, El Salvador, Costa Rica, anywhere in Central, North and South America, anywhere for a price you can pay for and get the organ of your choice. If you don’t believe it, search the net.
Many missing children are abducted and sold for these body parts. This is a multi-million dollar a year business. Be careful when your child is talking to a friendly little girl in a chat room. The Internet is worldwide and sometimes deceptive. The chat room your child uses could be somewhere in Mexico or New York, India, The Middle east or Korea . Your child could be talking to anyone, anywhere with the touch of a button, so close.
5. Most of us don’t even think of children used as pawns for a big price. Young blonde girls are kidnapped and sold for prostitution. This happens mostly in Middle Eastern Countries. Many of them have been know throughout history to love and enjoy young white blonde girls. Korea and Japan are also part of this corruption, or perversion. There are men and women who love and enjoy being around these young children. It is possible that some young boys and girls are kidnapped for a bigger purpose, breeding.
6. Many children run away because their parent or legal guardian abuse and belittle or neglect them. They feel rejected with no one supportive to talk to, even at school. Many children are placed in Foster homes and then abused by their Foster parents. When the child does report the abuse to Child Services, sometimes the Social Worker does nothing. Many Social Workers do not care. The abuse and humiliation continues until the child goes downhill and into the streets until they reach adulthood, at times too late.
7. Many parents are in a hurry to get to work, school and wherever their daily routines take them. However while traveling to their destinations they forget a small child in the backseat. When they return to the car they find their child red and not breathing from the heat.
8. Many parents drop their kids off at school, drop them at the sidewalk and say “I’ll pick you up later” then never return.
9. Many men and women cannot bear their own children and want to adopt. The problem is there are many illegal agencies that find and kidnap children for adoption or “sale”. The rewards in money and other compensations are great. Some kidnappers are hired to search for a particular type of child. There are many reasons why children are abused and kidnapped, bought and sold. Unfortunately the biggest reason is that children believe and trust us, the adults, the ones who are supposed to give them love and keep them safe.
10. In the United States we are very lucky to have Police and Police departments who act within a reasonable amount of time when they get a call regarding a missing child. We are able to make Police Reports. We have the recently developed “Amber Alert” system. Police can act on tips and leads to locate a missing child and continue to gather and build upon information to continue to do a better job at finding our missing children. The use of Radio, Television and Newspapers get the word out quickly when a child goes missing. Police may set up a command post near the missing child’s home and use local volunteers, posters and community involvement to help find a missing child.
Before you announce your thoughts about how unhappy you are or that the relationship simply is not working for you any longer, have a solid plan in place. Women often fail to plan ahead in leaving, underestimating what the abuser can and actually ends up doing. Susan Powell Example
Susan Powell, a married stockbroker and is a devoted mother to two young sons. Over time, Susan’s husband Josh became more and more controlling. Their marriage deteriorated. At this point in a relationship, many abusers begin to formulate a plan born of anger and desperation.
This plan remains in the abuser’s mind until they notice subtle signs of movement. Perhaps Josh walked into the room as Susan whispered into the phone. When she realized he was in the room, she quickly changed her tone or ended the phone call. Perhaps he learned Susan set up a bank account, and decided she was hiding money so she and the kids could leave.
The signs of movement spark Josh, or any potential abuser, to think of the next level. They think to themselves, “OK, she is going to leave me. I will not let that happen”. He acts as though nothing is wrong. When she goes to sleep, however, Josh leaps into action. He may:
•rummage through her car looking for evidence of her plan–a bank receipt or an unusual transaction or charge
•check her cell phone for any unusual numbers he does not recognize
•search her computer, checking to see which websites she visited
He finds something. Inwardly his anger skyrockets and his heart races. Outwardly, he remains calm and says nothing to Susan. A smile comes to his face. He “caught her,” and he figures in the future, she will pay one way or another.
Susan begins to email a trusted circle of friends about Josh’s abuse and threats. Maybe she keeps a detailed log containing dates and times of the incidents.
Next, Josh does what I label the “smell change.” Susan acts strangely. Josh, like most abusers, literally senses, or “smells” when his environment has shifted. Perhaps Susan verbalizes her unhappiness more often. Maybe she stands up for herself during a fight, where months before she would have backed down and gone to her room without incident.
Most abused women have difficulty hiding that “spark of empowerment” from a clever abuser. The abuser smells the spark, like a fox scents prey as he enters a coop full of chickens.
On December 7, 2009, Susan Powell of Utah disappeared. Law enforcement personnel consider her husband Josh a person of interest.
Susan Powell’s case appears no different from millions of cases of intimate partner violence we never hear about, until women disappear and someone finds their bodies. Often no “official documentation” of the abuse exists because the terrified women did not contact police or obtain a court order of protection. Why? Better than anyone, the victims know the court order of protection would not help. The court order of protection would only escalate the level of danger.
[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth http://www.therothshow.com/) ]
For survivors of sexual assault, new TSA screenings represent a threat. The new pat-downs and body scans can trigger “flash backs” of an assault and traumatize males, females and children recovering from a previous assault/attack. The new TSA policies and procedures do not even give consideration to the millions of victims and survivors who travel. This outrages me beyond words which I am sure you have gathered by now.
There is no evidence that those in charge of these decisions even gave a thought to victimization and the effect that these procedures will have or had. Again, I understand and respect the absolute need for safety but the catch 22 is that there is no guarantee that if an individual agrees to the scan that they will not end up being patted down anyway and groped. Hence, you are damned if you do and you are damned if you don’t.
For women and men who have already been sexually assaulted, the new screening rules—or just the threat of these rules—present a very real danger. They can be triggering events, setting off a post traumatic-stress reaction. “I started crying. It was so intimate, so horrible. I feel like I was being raped,” an anonymous rape survivor has reported. Another rape survivor had a panic attack as an agent began touching her leg.
“After a sexual assault, it seems that many survivors have difficulty having their bodies touched by other people,” says Shannon Lambert, founder of the Pandora Project, a nonprofit organization that provides support and information to survivors of rape and sexual abuse. This fear of contact even extends to partners and, often, medical professionals. “A lot of survivors do not want to be in positions where they’re vulnerable. They put up defenses so that they can be in control of their body. In cases like this, it seems like some of that control is going away.”
If that sense of control is violated, it can lead to more than hurt feelings. There’s a physical reaction associated with a triggering incident, and the response can vary from person to person. “It could lead to a person shutting down and becoming noncommunicative, it could result in a person becoming emotionally upset, it could trigger flashbacks, not just the thoughts and feelings they experienced, but perhaps other sensory experiences,” says Jennifer Marsh, director of the National Sexual Assault Hotline for the Rape Abuse & Incest National Network(RAINN).
TSA employees are clearly not trained properly as to how to perform a pat-down WITHOUT humiliating a traveler. The experiences that are coming forth are heart-breaking and someone needs to get a grip on the TSA workers – the pat-downs are NO JOKE! We are seeing over and over that TSA employees have no compassion what-so-ever as being demonstrated on a daily basis.
Passengers who decline the scan are subject to a pat-down to achieve that same goal. Again, even if you agree to go through the scan there is no guarantee that you will not be required to have to have a pat-down either. It’s a pat-down that many travelers say may be more thorough, but is also more invasive and humiliating than previous security frisks. “It was a horrifying experience. I was touched in my private parts, in my genital area, without consent and without warning,” says Erin Chase, an Ohio woman who flies several times a month. (TSA says that all airline officials should tell passengers what’s going to happen prior to a pat-down.)
I will leave you with this thought: “It is acceptable and encouraged that a TSA government official can do something to an American citizen that US military personnel cannot do to a member of the Taliban.”
Things that make you raise an eyebrow, eh? Hmmmmmm………
More and more victims (females, males and children of all ages) of TSA procedures will and are coming forward as they are realizing that they have been victimized. It is encouraged that all victims of the TSA to report and file appropriate charges accordingly. I do have a distinct problem and issue with any media minimizing victimization that any individual may encounter with the TSA procedures now in place.
I completely understand the need to protect the United States from terrorism in our friendly skies but I do have a problem with the invasive, intrusive, ill-mannered reports that we are receiving from those traveling and dealing with TSA employees working in our airports.
We have all read and heard over the weekend how this invasion of privacy has been minimized by our media and even our President. As far as I am concerned neither have concern for our privacy, compassion to others nor remorse because “they are just doing their jobs”. Well, they are doing much more than their “J-O-B”. I don’t give a flying flip about the projected percentage of travelers that “will not” be affected by these procedures or what airports have the scanners or don’t; I care about the individuals WHO ARE SUBJECTED to these procedures. These individuals are the true victims of assault and it’s legal – go figure! Not one government official will endure these procedures.
Secretary of State Hillary Clinton put down TSA pat-downs on Sunday, calling it an “offensive” security measure she wouldn’t want to experience herself.
“Everybody is trying to do the right thing,” Clinton said on CBS‘ “Face The Nation.” “I understand how difficult it is, and how offensive it must be for the people who are going through it.”
Asked if she would be willing to submit to an airport frisk, Clinton laughed and admitted, “Not if I could avoid it. No, I mean who would?”
According to every state in our country — and also under federal law – it is illegal for an individual to grab, grope or touch our bodies without the explicit permission from the person being… touched. There is no choice, either we get scanned (your naked picture being displayed for TSA employees to view OR get a pat-down).
The detrimental effects of re-victimization is not to be discarded, shrugged off or ignored. Unless you have experienced an assault and you were a victim and have transitioned into a Survivor…you have no clue or idea of the helplessness one feels. Anyone that has been victimized will now be re-victimized by our government and TSA workers.
TSA and President Obama continues to refer to “the Christmas underwear bomber”, Umar Farouk Abdulmutallab who attempted to detonate plastic explosives hidden in his underwear while on board Northwest Airlines Flight 253, en route. I would like to remind everyone that he boarded in Amsterdam and flew to Detroit, Michigan. He didn’t board the plane in the United States. The most recent scare of packages found in cargo originated outside of the United States. I pray that our government and TSA are making a sincere attempt to prevent flights coming into the USA as secure as they are making domestic and outgoing international flights from within.
Cathy Bossi, a cancer survivor flight attendant forced to remove her prosthetic breast during a pat-down. Talk about stripping an individual of dignity.
CHARLOTTE, NC (WBTV) – A Charlotte-area flight attendant and cancer survivor contacted WBTV after she says she was forced to show her prosthetic breast during a pat-down.
Cathy Bossi lives in south Charlotte and has been a flight attendant for the past 32 years, working the past 28 for U.S. Airways.
In early August Bossie was walking through security when she says she was asked to go through the new full body-scanners at Concourse “D” at Charlotte Douglas International.
She reluctantly agreed. As a 3-year breast cancer survivor she says she didn’t want the added radiation through her body. But, Bossi says she did agree.
“The TSA Agent told me to put my I.D. on my back,” she said. “When I got out of there she said because my I.D. was on my back, I had to go to a personal screening area.”
She says two female Charlotte T.S.A. agents took her to a private room and began what she calls an aggressive pat down. She says they stopped when they got around to feeling her right breast… the one where she’d had surgery.
“She put her full hand on my breast and said, ‘What is this?’. And I said, ‘It’s my prosthesis because I’ve had breast cancer.’ And she said, ‘Well, you’ll need to show me that’.”
Cathy was asked to show her prosthetic breast, removing it from her bra.
“I did not take the name of the person at the time because it was just so horrific of an experience, I couldn’t believe someone had done that to me. I’m a flight attendant. I was just trying to get to work.”
Since then, Cathy has contacted the Legislative Affairs Team, a group through the flight attendant union. She says she wants to see a crackdown on these personal pat downs.
“There are blowers and there are dogs out there that can sniff out bombs,” she says. “There’s no reason to have somebody’s hands touching your body parts.”
A T.S.A. representative says agents aren’t supposed to remove any prosthetics, but are allowed to ask to see and touch any passenger’s prosthetic.
T.S.A. says it will review this matter.
In the end……
the choice is to fly or not to fly. I’ve taken my shoes off, adapted to rules and regulations about carry-on items (even had items thrown out because they were slightly over the size (begged them to take them home because of the items worth), walked through the metal detectors, had the wands used on me; however, personally I will not subject myself to an invasion of my privacy by going through a body scanner nor allow anyone to touch me WITHOUT MY PERMISSION. You can’t even fight back other than to…….NOT FLY.
One last thought…..is anyone focusing or talking about security on our other means of transportation (Amtrak, buses and tunnels that have traffic backup)?
Anny is a Survivor of Domestic Violence with many years as a Certified Advocate. She firmly believes that EVERY female has the absolute right to protect and defend herself mentally, emotionally, spiritually and ultimately physically.
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“If you don’t want to go through the full body scanner and/or be subjected to a full body pat-down by the TSA then stay home.”
Cathy Bossi lives in south Charlotte and has been a flight attendant for the past 32 years, working the past 28 for U.S. Airways.
